You have been “working on your marriage” for a while now and it’s still miserable – do you know why?
I mean, maybe you’ve been to counseling … and it seems like there is no PLAN and all you are doing is working on the problem of the week… nothing is really changing, or maybe it does for a bit then you find yourself back in old patterns and feelings.
Lonely.
Again.
And maybe you just can’t get your spouse to listen or understand you. SO frustrating!
And discouraging.
Worse yet, maybe you both leave the therapist office discouraged and it’s a long quiet painful ride home…
Too common.
You know there just HAS to be something that can help…
The conflict and lack of connection is destructive to your kids and family.
This needs to STOP.
You really DO want connection, but are getting tired of trying.
Maybe NOW is the time to try what actually works.
There is a PROCESS we have seen many relationships go through for change to happen and stick.
Skip a step and it doesn’t work.
Demand your partner be someplace they aren’t yet and that blows it up too.
Knowing the PROCESS will help you STOP doing what’s making things worse – like going silent, avoiding, or complaining, yelling, crying, or demanding.
If you feel angry and like a doormat because you can’t do those things, you just don’t see the other options. That’s okay. Plenty of people don’t at first – I didn’t either!
His ways (God’s) are higher than our ways! And no, they aren’t “submit more” – unless that is to God 😂
What if what you need is a balance of twenty positives to every one negative that Gottman’s research makes a necessity for thriving marriages?
What if the WAY you solve problems can get BOTH of you seen and heard – with a “no-losers policy”!!?
What if you could become friends again – enjoying each other’s company – and find safety and trust in each other?
THAT is a path we can help you find and a PROCESS we can walk you through.
And it takes 3-6 months.
Yes, it really IS possible to turn things around in that short of time.
Look, I know you are hurting, and I am happy to listen and bring compassion to your experience. But if you aren’t ready to actually change your situation, we don’t need to talk.
If you ARE ready to invest and do some hard work on something completely different and NEW, then reach out with “let’s do this!” And we will chat about options.
Know that if you keep doing what you have been, that’s choosing to stay the same. You can keep choosing this but you will get more of what you have already.
I believe if you are a follower of Christ, you are better than that.
And your family deserves more.
“Let’s do this!”
Love to you,
Nina