Why isn’t your marriage better?
Maybe you’ve done all the things you know to do – read the books, watched the webinars, listened to the podcasts, did the Bible studies… and still, somehow, there is distance between you. Conflict out of the blue randomly or worse, isolation and silence.
It’s not your fault – you are doing your best, and this is what it looks like 🙂 How can you expect yourself to create something when you 1) don’t know exactly the journey, and 2) don’t know what it takes to get there, and 3) it often seems your spouse is working in OPPOSITION to you?
What if there was a proven path forward with where you are that could get you to where you want to be?
For just a moment right now, take a risk with me… it might be a scary one…
Dare you to dream for a moment about what it might look like in your marriage if it was truly healthy.
Questions would be met with patience – and kindness. Time together seamless, planned, and easy. Consistent. Friendship rules the day. Troubles shared, joys as well. Connection with Jesus at the center of all. Differences don’t devolve into argument but rather evolve into mutual understanding.
Marriage relationships are the maturing ground for us all, where our worst brutalizes the one we love most, or our best builds one another up.
I’ve seen God heal couples who hated each other, or even felt nothing, and He brought them first into deeper connection with Himself, then with our spouse.
He seems to consistently start with helping them first STOP letting their emotions rule them – and replaces that with Himself.
He then shows us how to be patient with ourselves, receiving His patience with us, and then we literally allow Him to shape our identity into His Son.
He is still in the transformation business!
Bottom line: Don’t quit. Remember Matthew 6:33
Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven, and all these things will be added onto you.
It’s Who He is!
Love to you,
Nina
PS – if you want help moving down this path, reach out. I’ll give you an hour of my time and we will see what the next right step for you is, based on where you are. If you know you are ready for Strength & Dignity, sign up here. If you want as a couple, change in 3-6 months, PM me and let’s see if you qualify.
