Spouse walks in, sits down, doesn’t acknowledge your presence, ignores your greeting, starts scrolling on the phone. You’re standing there wondering, “Will it always be like this?”or worse, “Can this marriage even be saved?” Most people would want to lash out at that point. Who wouldn’t? You’ve been lonely for a long time, misunderstood, attacked. …
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6 Mistakes That Destroy Your Marriage…
“I can’t take another day – I feel so alone! My marriage is a king’s delight, cook, clean, work, go to school, take care of the children, make sure the laundry is done, supper on the table when the husband gets in, and lay down and let him have his pleasure whenever he feels. Do …
If you are married or parenting, you may be interested in knowing the 7 Pillars of Mutual Respect. You may have noticed I’ve been a little sporadic in blogging of late. I’m really sorry about that… and I really appreciate the emails and pm’s of encouragement. I have a number of life circumstances that have …
Dare 1 of The RESPECT DARE
Got expectations? They might be destroying your marriage. Sitting next to each other in the church pew at a conference for young girls and their moms, my daughter and I smiled at each other. Standing and worshiping together, we clapped hands, waved our arms, and sang our hearts out. We took notes sitting side by …
Dare #18 Journey… Strength and Dignity 101
She is clothed in strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. (Proverbs 31:25) There are times I don’t want to be a grown up. I have three kids, a husband, a house, a ministry, and countless other responsibilities. Being a grown up is a difficult requirement of life to ignore. In …
Dare #18 of The Respect Dare… What should she do?
Psychologists will tell us that the “parent-child” or “mothering” style of relating is extremely unhealthy in marriage. What IS healthiest is “adult-adult.” Unfortunately, we don’t always do that. Both men and women can be “parental” or “mothering” in a relationship and “childish.” This manifests itself in ranges of varying levels of controlling behaviors to rebelliousness, …
Dare #17 Journey – Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?
Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. And we recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect …
Dare #17 of The Respect Dare… How Do You REALLY Feel?
Today’s Dare always gives me pause. Truth is, when negative sentiment over-ride has created a place within a marriage, the wife often can’t translate what her husband actually DOES into a positive character trait. Often these folks are headed for separation or divorce and don’t even realize it. I’ve talked with too many wives who …
Dare #16 Journey We Need Prayer… for What Changes YOUR Marriage…
What if there was a process to change your marriage? And what if it was not only biblical, but had been proven to work? What if there was even tons of research behind it? And the method had been around for literally decades? Here’s the thing – ALL marriages have conflict. Based on what we’ve …
Dare #15 of The Respect Dare… GOT STUFF?
Story of Stuff It was 35+ years ago. I stood outside the police station with a group of 12 year olds, waiting for things to get started. As I watched my dad drive away in the car, my heart started to pound. The police officer outside started collecting the permission slips from the other kids…and …