We all have toxic people in our lives. Sometimes they are US. One morning last week in the communication class I teach at a local college, we were covering relationship-damaging behaviors, and what indicates a potentially toxic future relationship. I saw an act of bravery that gave me a moment of pause. One of my …
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Ever wonder why you’re still fighting? Wish there was something you could do about it? I talk to tons of people who are in relationships that have the same cycle – someone states an opinion, the other notes their opposing thoughts, the other person disagrees with that, then the other explains all their reasons why …
Do you just LOVE the negative environment you’re in? Enjoying the constant complaining, criticizing, and condemning that’s going on? I didn’t think so… Wish you could change the atmosphere? You know the feeling, sitting around the dinner table, everyone talking about their day, but instead of a “this is what happened to me,” in a …
5 Steps to Putting the Brakes on Divorce…
Maybe you’re thinking about it. Maybe the dreaded, “D-word” has popped out of your mouth in a sentence. Maybe you find yourself thinking, “I can’t keep living like this. I need to get away from this pain.” Or… “I hate him/her.” Or even worse, “I feel nothing towards him/her anymore. Why am I even bothering?” …
Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage
Few people probably Google “ways to destroy my marriage,” but we all need to pay attention to some marriage-destroying communication behaviors. Sometimes we learn from knowing what NOT to do. 🙂 Bear in mind, I’m not one given to sarcasm, and this post is literally dripping with it. I hope you aren’t offended, but a …
search shows verbal aggression and conflict damages kids (if you are also yelling, you are contributing) – and it takes two to make it happen. Let’s become women of strength & dignity and raise the standard of behavior for ourselves and everyone around us, including our husbands.
Looking for Mutual Respect? I remember the first time a boundary of mine was crossed by a friend. I didn’t recognize it for what it was at the time, but I see it clearly now. We were sitting in the theater, around age nine, and I had a box of candy. Over half the box …
There is more than one small change to prevent an argument, but today I’ll share one of the ways we see wives go, “WOW!” over. It’s pretty simple, actually, and it works really well when you want to give feedback or help your husband and he doesn’t seem to want help or know that he …
Without this, your marriage won’t change. I experienced the benefits of what I’m about to say over the weekend. Bear with me for a moment as I share with you what happened, and the small but BIG benefit that comes! The garden Tears began to fill my eyes as I walked my husband around my …
The First Pillar of Mutual Respect – To the extent my identity is wrapped up in my relationship with God, I respect myself and as a result, others respect me too. Last week I started a conversation about respect. I have seen disrespectful behavior destroy marriages, bust apart business partnerships, and tear families to pieces. …