Could expectations be ruining your relationship? I sleepily shuffled into the kitchen this morning, pulled a mug from the cabinet, and smiled as the smell of coffee filled my nose as I poured. The slightly bitter hot beverage starts every morning of my life. Most of the time, I don’t even think about where it …
Tag: Dare to respect
Looking for Mutual Respect? I remember the first time a boundary of mine was crossed by a friend. I didn’t recognize it for what it was at the time, but I see it clearly now. We were sitting in the theater, around age nine, and I had a box of candy. Over half the box …
Dare #18 Journey… Strength and Dignity 101
She is clothed in strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. (Proverbs 31:25) There are times I don’t want to be a grown up. I have three kids, a husband, a house, a ministry, and countless other responsibilities. Being a grown up is a difficult requirement of life to ignore. In …
Dare #18 of The Respect Dare… What should she do?
Psychologists will tell us that the “parent-child” or “mothering” style of relating is extremely unhealthy in marriage. What IS healthiest is “adult-adult.” Unfortunately, we don’t always do that. Both men and women can be “parental” or “mothering” in a relationship and “childish.” This manifests itself in ranges of varying levels of controlling behaviors to rebelliousness, …
Dare #17 Journey – Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?
Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. And we recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect …