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April 11, 2021 / Avoid Divorce

Dare #11 Journey – Negative Assumptions

Is there really ONE simple thing you can do with your negative assumptions to respect your husband and yourself?

YES.

You may remember my post that deals with Dr. John Gottman’s research on how negative sentiments impact marriage.

Dare you today to wildly extend grace, while not being a doormat. Speak truth in love, talk about how you feel, and listen well – instead of giving voice to the accuser. Negative assumptions are deadly. Don’t assume you know what another person’s motives are. You may be wrong. Don’t tell people what they think or feel. You can’t know for sure.

That’s pride.

STOP jumping to conclusions – catch yourself when you feel negatively about someone and ask a question to them instead of assuming the worst – because love does the opposite. Love also remembers that our battle is not with flesh and blood, but rather with the principalities of this world.

Today’s respect tip is simply that – because you cannot be respectful of yourself or others if you are thinking the worst.

If you search for good, you will find favor;
    but if you search for evil, it will find you!

Proverbs 11:27

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