Need some hope for your marriage?

For most, the reason your marriage is a hot mess filled with misery is due to something super common.

Most people try to fix it by doing things that seriously don’t work and usually make things worse.

Most attempts at marriage therapy fails – if you’ve been to a couples counselor and done the “problem of the week” method (which works for individual therapy, but NOT for couples!!) you KNOW how that has gone.

I’ve seen Christian pastors and therapists even eventually suggest divorce because what are doing is clearly not working – but can I just ever so humbly gently suggest that they don’t know what actually works? I know that sounds arrogant… but mind you, went through about 6 or 7 therapists (both individually and together) and a few fired us and NONE of them helped us.

See if this sounds familiar – you have a legitimate concern around something and you bring it to your spouse.

They get defensive, start accusing YOU of something also, then next thing you know, you are both yelling at each other.

Saying stuff no one should say to anyone ever, just trying to get heard, and now MORE damage has been done.

Yeah.

Been there done that, bought the Tshirt.

So you go to someone trying to get help, and the same thing happens, except this time, advice is given, and maybe you try to take it next time, but still things keep going the way they have gone.

Then people start labeling each other as narcissists and focusing on their own injuries and LOTS of conflict is happening.

So you are stuck.

Maybe you now consider divorce because this has been going on for years and happening more frequently and you are just so DONE.

Can I toss you some hope?

I can write all that above because I’ve lived it. We both considered filing. We both talked to attorneys.

Our kids even suggested we part ways.

Nearly NO one supported our staying together.

But we both still believed God, so we didn’t take action.

And thank You Jesus we didn’t because we have walked this crazy narrow path to healing and are better friends now than we have been in years. Closer, for sure. I WANT that for YOU!!

What’s wild is I’m talking with a few couples right now who actually DID divorce but want to see if they can put it back together. That’s actually not an uncommon thing – most have kids together and are stuck seeing each other anyway, so why not?

Know this…

I may be the only one in your life who will be supportive of that potential, whether you are still married or not.

Borrow my hope and let’s chat. It may not be too late.

We know the PROCESS a couple needs to go through to be healed and healthy – maybe for the first time in their lives. Respond here or email coachnina(at)greaterimpact.org and let’s see if we can help you. We have an over 95% marriage-improvement rate with those who go through our process.

It’s NOT short, it costs money, but it WORKS.

If you aren’t ready to explore that and put in some effort though, it won’t, so don’t reach out.

I don’t want that all to sound arrogant – it has healed us and I’ve seen it heal others. I just can’t keep my mouth shut about it.

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