Have you lost the connection in your marriage?
Last night my heart filled with so much joy I wondered if I could contain it.
100% of the couples in our Marriage Intensive sat next to each other in their homes, close-style, on Zoom.
The tenderness and gentle gazes toward each other, the soft touches, smiles, and laughter… real connection played out in front of me.
Knowing where some of them came from and the tougher parts of their journeys made last night like Christmas morning for a 7 year old.
Tears welled for me, and my face hurt from smiling after the one-hour meeting.
This wasn’t a one-off, but rather a reflection of just over 2 months of a meager 2-3 hours a week of work.
Pretty simple stuff, actually.
And we have 18 weeks left.
I can’t wait to see where they will be then!
Given that the research shows couples in healthy marriages put 3-6 hours of time in weekly, that is pretty amazing.
Our couples are awesome and so is our God.
What we do is literally like NOTHING else out there.
Most intensives are a week long at most and then do the satisfaction survey at the end when you are full of new info and revelation, but the rubber hasn’t met the bumpy road of the actual day to day of life.
You basically have this mountain top experience and then are sent home, sometimes with coaching (cue “problem of the week” counseling discussions that don’t work) but no real PLAN and of course the results don’t last.
I know because my husband and I went to several intensives. Did the follow up.
Didn’t help.
We have also been fired by a few therapists, and seen many others.
None of which helped us.
Seriously brutal, if someone would have actually KNOWN what we needed to DO, we would have done it.
That’s because the typical “let’s talk about the problem of the week approach” doesn’t work.
But we both believed God, and so rabid dog with lockjaw style, we had sunk our teeth into not quitting, and thank You Jesus, managed to not fully destroy ourselves or the marriage before what worked fell into place.
God saved our marriage.
And out of many years of suffering, and a TON of reading, workshops, therapy appointments, retreats, intensives, you name it… for BOTH of us, He birthed this PROCESS that is Biblical and now supported by the best marriage research out there.
Want connection and friendship with your spouse again?
Want your kids to see what a loving marriage looks like?
Reach out at coachnina(at)greaterimpact.org with “plan” and let’s chat. There are some couples I know I can NOT help and I will let you know that. We screen everyone before bringing them in because I can’t have you blow up my other couples and I need to protect Greater Impact’s reputation.
So I will be honest.
Having said that, we have worked with people where divorce has been filed, separations of years have happened, domestic violence has been a thing…
That all sounds wild, doesn’t it?
We have a really big God.
If your marriage is a mess, even if you have just grown apart or never learned how to be friends in the first place, KNOW that God is always about His glory and is writing a testimony!
Borrow my hope for a bit and let’s chat! We have a PLAN to help you heal your marriage.
KNOW NOW you are ready to at least jump into coaching or our proven Strength & Dignity eCourse? Https://greaterimpactwives.org