For wives who are feeling alone, lost, not sure where to turn:
Having been around for hundreds of years, the Bible, in its current form, is full of information about marriage. This has been interpreted into the culture we live in today. I have blogged about the concepts of “submission,” “respect,” and following Christ as a mom, wife, friend, and teacher. I hope some of the answers you seek on your journey are found in what God has revealed to me and others here.
Warning – if you are in a marriage where you are afraid, PLEASE consider getting you and your kids to safety. If physical harm isn’t the issue, please join our Strength & Dignity eCourse to remember who and Whose you are – or discover that for the first time.
You don’t have to feel like this.
You can regain your confidence and change your marriage.
With all the couples I’ve encountered, 100% of the time, both people are contributing to the problem. There are things you can do to deal with your situation AND help the environment in your home.
The way you go about that matters.
I’m NOT a fan of “submission at any cost” or “peace at any price.” We are NOT to submit (which really means to be wildly open to) to sin. If he’s yelling at you, he’s sinning. The Bible tells him to not be harsh and to love you.
This will scare you if you are in a tough situation, especially one with verbal abuse, but gaining confidence in Him and learning how to do conflict in a way that changes your relationship is what we help you do.
If you go about all this while speaking the language of respect, you’ll be met with greater success. It will change your family. If you are being oppressed and you do The Respect Dare book, however, that can make your already potentially codependent and unhealthy relationship even worse. It might even foster more verbally aggressive behavior from your husband towards you because you don’t know how to respect yourself.
Again, do Strength & Dignity instead. We teach how to respect you and him there, help you regain your identity, and navigate conflict on a whole new level.
For wives who know they are too aggressive:
If you are struggling with selfishness or know you have issues respecting your husband, do The Respect Dare book for the full life and marriage-changing effect, but in the meantime, for quick help, check out this list of 101 Ways to Respect Your Husband. You’ll know this is you if you are sarcastic, argumentative, bossy, critical, or find yourself hounding him to do things.
Want the download? Here you go! 🙂 101 Ways to Respect Your Husband Download
Have you stopped loving him? Need to rekindle feelings? THIS IS THE WAY. Research supported. Biblical.
This post on dealing with a husband’s anger is one to consider. It is simple, but it points to the heart of the reason we do not understand respect, submission, or marriage.
First, go check out Why Respect? and the pages associated with it.
Are you Feeling Like a Loser? Stop. Any feelings of shame and guilt are from the enemy.
Want to learn how to handle conflict better? Check out these posts on conflict.
At a complete loss? Maybe you are BOTH aggressive and feeling abused?
Does he seem angry all the time? Maybe even verbally abusive? Take our Strength & Dignity eCourse.
And be sure to sign up for the Marriage Tips!
And for those of you who might be wrapping up your identity in what other people think, we encourage you to read God’s opinion of you.
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Love to you,