Dare 1 of The RESPECT DARE

...how expectations may be destroying your marriage

Got expectations? They might be destroying your marriage. Sitting next to each other in the church pew at a conference for young girls and their moms, my daughter and I smiled at each other. Standing and worshiping together, we clapped hands, waved our arms, and sang our hearts out. We took notes sitting side by […]

Dare #17 Journey – Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. And we recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect […]

Dare #17 of The Respect Dare… How Do You REALLY Feel?

Today’s Dare always gives me pause. Truth is, when negative sentiment over-ride has created a place within a marriage, the wife often can’t translate what her husband actually DOES into a positive character trait. Often these folks are headed for separation or divorce and don’t even realize it. I’ve talked with too many wives who […]

Dare #12 Journey – Submission

Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

Right now, there are just two world-views on marriage relationships: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. Recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to […]

Dare #12 of The Respect Dare… Submission without becoming a Doormat

Showing Grace Wasted home-cooked meal on the counter. Over night. Some people just don’t get it. I confess I’ve been one of them. And I can RIGHT NOW relate to the woman in Dare 12. She’s got 101 things to do, she’s exhausted, she asked for help, and delivery was mediocre. Mind you, when I […]

Dare #9 Journey – Feel like a doormat? Might need some boundaries…

If you feel like a doormat in your marriage it might be due to a need for boundaries. (stick around for the self-assessment toward the end and find out how YOU can be a Titus 2 woman and lead other women to this freedom in their marriages) I remember the first time a boundary of […]

Dare #8 of The Respect Dare – The Problem with Memories

I Remember the Time… The lunge line was in one hand, the end of the rope in the other. I quietly told my horse to lunge (walk a circle) around me to the left. She did this. Then she sprung into the air, and started to gallop. Mane tossed in the wind. Eyes wide. Both […]

Dare #6 of The Respect Dare – Conflict

Several years ago, I facilitated a retreat that equipped organizational leaders to effectively handle conflict. We spent a good deal of time talking about some of the behaviors of people in the organization. God used the opportunity to remind me of something. Many of the issues and problems that ALL organizations face are due to […]