Ever say, “Get over it!” to yourself or others?

Why it's not helpful - and can actually hurt you and your relationships

If you’ve ever heard a parent or loved one say to you, “Get over it!” you know the emptiness that phrase dumps on you. It’s a common phrase in our individualistic Western culture, however. We think we are tough, should be tough, want to be tough, but what we are really looking for is strength, […]

Deflate Defensiveness in 2018

join us and rethink respect...

Deflating Defensiveness in 2018 My marriage isn’t easy, but I married a really wounded man, he was neglected as a child, and those wounds show up in his lack of trust that anyone is ever really there for him. Without learning how to speak the language of respect and deal with his hyper-defensiveness, our marriage […]

Dealing with defensiveness?

Start here...

If you want to know how to deal with defensiveness, you’ll need to know the basic why’s and how’s of respect.  Here’s why: Defensiveness divides in relationships. I don’t think there’s a better place to find those answers than this radio show I did with Debbie Chavez. God used her to pull out the right […]

How and why to respect your husband

Even when it isn't easy

So many women ask me how and why they should respect their husband. Shouldn’t he deserve it? He should earn it, right? In today’s Family Life Radio broadcast, Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine and I talk through the issue. It isn’t really about the merit of the man, but moreso our relationship with Christ that […]

These are difficult days – prayer appreciated

thankful to be able to ask you...

There aren’t words. All I can say is that prayer is appreciated. What are the odds of taping a Focus on the Family broadcast about your parenting book in March, and then having the segment that talks about raising a challenging child air on the day of that now 29 year-old child’s memorial?  As many […]

Heal & Grow Your Marriage Webinar – Thursday 2pm ET

...why a man's brain responds to respect...

  A SPECIAL WEBINAR – Heal & Grow Your Marriage through RESPECT   To help your marriage heal and grow, Life Model Works has invited me to be their guest on this Webinar: Thursday, March 9th, 2:00 PM ET. The Bible and brain science agree that a key to healing and growing your marriage is a wife’s […]

5 Reasons Not to Quit Your Marriage

why to keep hanging on when you think it is over...

You might need more than 5 reasons not to quit your marriage. All I have today is 5. Hang on to the end, and you’ll understand why. If you’re looking for hope today, it’s my goal to dish some. … One Friday in October, Jim and I sat in the surgery waiting area at Children’s […]

5 Reasons Not to Quit Your Marriage

why to keep hanging on when you think it is over...

You might need more than 5 reasons not to quit your marriage. All I have today is 5. Hang on to the end, and you’ll understand why. If you’re looking for hope today, it’s my goal to dish some. … One Friday in October, Jim and I sat in the surgery waiting area at Children’s […]