Ever say, “Get over it!” to yourself or others?

Why it's not helpful - and can actually hurt you and your relationships

If you’ve ever heard a parent or loved one say to you, “Get over it!” you know the emptiness that phrase dumps on you. It’s a common phrase in our individualistic Western culture, however. We think we are tough, should be tough, want to be tough, but what we are really looking for is strength, […]

Deflate Defensiveness in 2018

join us and rethink respect...

Deflating Defensiveness in 2018 My marriage isn’t easy, but I married a really wounded man, he was neglected as a child, and those wounds show up in his lack of trust that anyone is ever really there for him. Without learning how to speak the language of respect and deal with his hyper-defensiveness, our marriage […]

Dealing with defensiveness?

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If you want to know how to deal with defensiveness, you’ll need to know the basic why’s and how’s of respect.  Here’s why: Defensiveness divides in relationships. I don’t think there’s a better place to find those answers than this radio show I did with Debbie Chavez. God used her to pull out the right […]

One thing you MUST do in conflict

how respecting yourself can turn your relationship around

Yes. There IS one thing you simply MUST do when in conflict. If you don’t, you’ll stay stuck, won’t resolve things, and be discouraged. And your relationship simply won’t change. What I’m about to share with you is something that will change your life if you can do it. I want to give you the […]