Ever say, “Get over it!” to yourself or others?

Why it's not helpful - and can actually hurt you and your relationships

If you’ve ever heard a parent or loved one say to you, “Get over it!” you know the emptiness that phrase dumps on you. It’s a common phrase in our individualistic Western culture, however. We think we are tough, should be tough, want to be tough, but what we are really looking for is strength, […]

The Respect Dare… for Non-Christians

Respect Research 101

Rationale for Respect Several years ago, I had a discussion with a woman who adamantly refused to demonstrate respect towards her husband. She felt he hadn’t done anything to deserve it. She’s not a Christian, and wouldn’t appreciate God’s point of view in the matter.  So, I took an academic approach. Research done at Washington State University […]

One Way We Cause Defensiveness in Others…

and how a change in our thinking helps to STOP perpetuating conflict...

While there’s more than one way we cause defensiveness in others, today we’re going to start with the most common one. This is our next stop on the RESPECT-101 journey. It coincides nicely with  last week’s post on 3 Ways to Mess up Your Marriage, where we learned how: The need to win Disrespect for self […]

3 ways to mess up your marriage…

and your other relationships at work, home, and play

There are certainly more than 3 ways to mess up your marriage… today, however, we’ll be looking just 3…and changing them will change ALL of your relationships – and make you happier. … Carla stared at Steve in disbelief. All she had wanted to do was have a simple conversation about where to go for […]