Are you or do you know someone who gets defensive easily? You’re often surprised by their reaction – they take things personally, are easily offended, and make things about them. Sound familiar? The other side of this is being the person whose feelings are easily hurt. Whether you are in a marriage that is struggling, …
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Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage
Few people probably Google “ways to destroy my marriage,” but we all need to pay attention to some marriage-destroying communication behaviors. Sometimes we learn from knowing what NOT to do. 🙂 Bear in mind, I’m not one given to sarcasm, and this post is literally dripping with it. I hope you aren’t offended, but a …
6 Mistakes That Destroy Your Marriage…
“I can’t take another day – I feel so alone! My marriage is a king’s delight, cook, clean, work, go to school, take care of the children, make sure the laundry is done, supper on the table when the husband gets in, and lay down and let him have his pleasure whenever he feels. Do …
Deflate Defensiveness in 2018
Deflating Defensiveness in 2018 My marriage isn’t easy, but I married a really wounded man, he was neglected as a child, and those wounds show up in his lack of trust that anyone is ever really there for him. Without learning how to speak the language of respect and deal with his hyper-defensiveness, our marriage …
Dare #18 Journey… Strength and Dignity 101
She is clothed in strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. (Proverbs 31:25) There are times I don’t want to be a grown up. I have three kids, a husband, a house, a ministry, and countless other responsibilities. Being a grown up is a difficult requirement of life to ignore. In …
Dare #17 Journey – Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?
Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. And we recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect …
Dare #16 Journey We Need Prayer… for What Changes YOUR Marriage…
What if there was a process to change your marriage? And what if it was not only biblical, but had been proven to work? What if there was even tons of research behind it? And the method had been around for literally decades? Here’s the thing – ALL marriages have conflict. Based on what we’ve …
Dare #12 Journey – Submission
Right now, there are just two world-views on marriage relationships: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. Recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to …
Dare #6 of The Respect Dare – Conflict
Several years ago, I facilitated a retreat that equipped organizational leaders to effectively handle conflict. We spent a good deal of time talking about some of the behaviors of people in the organization. God used the opportunity to remind me of something. Many of the issues and problems that ALL organizations face are due to …
Dare #4 Journey – 5 Positives for Every Negative…
Negative or Positive? What do you actually DO? I mean, are we supposed to just run around giving compliments like crazy? In research done by Dr. John Gottman, we learn that marriages that are considered “happy” have a number of things in common. Here’s just a few: A complete absence of contempt 5 “positive” interactions …