Without this, your marriage won’t change. I experienced the benefits of what I’m about to say over the weekend. Bear with me for a moment as I share with you what happened, and the small but BIG benefit that comes! The garden Tears began to fill my eyes as I walked my husband around my …
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Dare 1 of The RESPECT DARE
Got expectations? They might be destroying your marriage. Sitting next to each other in the church pew at a conference for young girls and their moms, my daughter and I smiled at each other. Standing and worshiping together, we clapped hands, waved our arms, and sang our hearts out. We took notes sitting side by …
Dare #18 Journey… Strength and Dignity 101
She is clothed in strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. (Proverbs 31:25) There are times I don’t want to be a grown up. I have three kids, a husband, a house, a ministry, and countless other responsibilities. Being a grown up is a difficult requirement of life to ignore. In …
Dare #17 of The Respect Dare… How Do You REALLY Feel?
Today’s Dare always gives me pause. Truth is, when negative sentiment over-ride has created a place within a marriage, the wife often can’t translate what her husband actually DOES into a positive character trait. Often these folks are headed for separation or divorce and don’t even realize it. I’ve talked with too many wives who …
Dare #16 Journey We Need Prayer… for What Changes YOUR Marriage…
What if there was a process to change your marriage? And what if it was not only biblical, but had been proven to work? What if there was even tons of research behind it? And the method had been around for literally decades? Here’s the thing – ALL marriages have conflict. Based on what we’ve …
Dare #16 of The Respect Dare…
The factory worker stood in front of me. Greasy hands wiped the front of his shirt. “What ARE you, anyway?” he asked me. My brow furrowed. I chewed my lip. I had no idea what he was talking about. “What do you mean?” I inquired. “You’re always so happy all the time. And whenever someone …
Dare #14 Journey – Is A Lack of Communication Destroying Your Marriage?
The horses grazed in the pasture. The drying grass crunched under my feet as I walked from the barn out to the field, eager to try the new thing I learned the day before thanks to Equus.com. Normally, my process was efficient and productive. Take the lead. Walk to the horses, maybe saying, “hello” to …
Dare #11 Journey – Negative Assumptions
Is there really ONE simple thing you can do to respect your husband and yourself? YES. You may remember my post that deals with Dr. John Gottman’s research on how negative sentiments impact marriage. Dare you today to wildly extend grace, while not being a doormat. Speak truth in love, talk about how you feel, …
Dare #11 of The Respect Dare – Pay Attention!
From today’s dare… As she walked from the workshop to the house, she remembered several weeks ago, when she asked for his help and he completely ignored her, not even answering. Is your marriage in a state where one of you ignores the other? Understand that choosing to not respond to someone when s/he asks …
Dare #9 Journey – Feel like a doormat? Might need some boundaries…
If you feel like a doormat in your marriage it might be due to a need for boundaries. (stick around for the self-assessment toward the end and find out how YOU can be a Titus 2 woman and lead other women to this freedom in their marriages) I remember the first time a boundary of …