A Common Myth That Destroys Marriages

If I’m honest I will say I believed this for a bit too… so no judgment if it’s a thing for you right now…

Ever “lose it” emotionally at your husband? Maybe come unhitched, subconsciously thinking, “if he could just understand what I’m saying, this problem will get solved” ???

Didn’t work, did it? Maybe you believed subconsciously that because he is a MAN, he should be able to handle anything, including your emotional outbursts and harsh behavior – which BTW is also sin… Side effect – this causes his tender heart to close up to you instead.

Another side effect is the loss of emotional control creates disrespect – you are treating him disrespectfully, but also yourself – which then causes him to disrespect you.

Not your intention, I know.

But unless he respects you, you won’t have influence.

I work with women daily who expect their spouse to handle things from them that they would complain about receiving from him… And, honestly, FEW people are bulletproof and healed enough for this type of treatment in the first place…

If you are shouting at your spouse in conflict – STOP.

It’s ungodly behavior and makes everything worse.

If he is shouting at you – respectfully leave the conversation – “Hey, I love you, let’s finish this when we can both be calm.”

How to stop your own yelling?

Grow – self control is a fruit of the Spirit.

Reach out – I have a free tool for you – just email me “STOP” at coachnina(at)greaterimpact.org and we will get you set up! 

You don’t have to stay stuck!

Love to you,
Nina