Maybe you want to believe God can change your marriage, but need help in your unbelief… I get it. Been there. Seriously. Maybe you have read the books, been to the workshops, attended the webinars… You’ve prayed your everlovin’ heart out… Daily. For years. And STILL… Nothing. Has. Changed. You still feel alone, discouraged, hopeless even. You’ve done your best, and died to self, laid down your wants, grown in your relationship with God, but… Your marriage is STILL… Lonely. Demeaning. And you are fighting, winning, and losing at the battle of whether or not to stay in it. Maybe you’ve done what your church has taught you and it just made things worse. You don’t want to divorce… and yet you know how damaging conflict is for your kids. Or maybe they have moved out and now you are slowly dying inside…
I’m so sorry if this is you.
And I apologize for my nearly complete absence on this leg of your journey. You deserve better than that from me. I won’t bore you or glorify the enemy with the details, but just to be brutally honest, I lost sight of how to hang in there myself, got stretched beyond my capacity and faith… overcame another cancer scare, MOVED to a farm, and am daily style dealing with my disabled and hurting hands, trying to unpack, care for livestock, and find my footing again with Greater Impact. God started trying to get my attention back in February with multiple emails each week from wives doing The Respect Dare. This shocked me, as I wanted to pretend that book didn’t exist. He was persistent. I finally listened. And now I’m BACK. !! (because HE brought me back!) And my marriage is better than ever, after a LONG period of struggle that nearly did us in, and I’m on mission with the Lord in ways I’m just humbled to be part of. (Gottman’s right, btw!) He is SO VERY GOOD!! So, what’s this mean for YOU? First, I want to apologize. For some of you, it may seem like your white-water raft guide got out of the boat and left you stranded a few years ago. “Have fun!” style… oof. For others, what God was bringing to you through me was just frosting on the cake He was already baking. I’m sure there are plenty of those in-between. I have not been walking in my calling lately… well, let’s be honest, for a few years now… And I’m sorry for leaving without explanation, without even a prayer request. I kept thinking I’d be able to easily come back. We know that’s not what happened. And I trust you’ll forgive me, and I’m 100% sure He brought you people to fill in the gap, as we aren’t necessary to His action – if we say no, He can and often does find someone else. SO … As I ask for your forgiveness, I also ask for an undeserved second chance, all the while knowing you may have moved on, and that is really okay, even great. As long as you are being ministered to, I’m good with that! There are many in the body of Christ! As for me, if I could share a bit of my mess… The journey has been long, hard, dry, yet paved with tears, and I felt like I was scraping the bottom of a dried up well for His message to others. As is His ways, they are higher than ours, and some things needed to happen before I could move forward again. He needed to change some things within ME. And our team has shown up repeatedly, awesomely, patiently, filled with grace, while I figure this all out. He has brought me His creation as a blessing. I feel like I’m living in Montana again… So, I’m resurrecting the blogging.
Overwhelmed with gratitude…
I’ll share what He’s done in me and my life – and the new book He is birthing that is nearly finished. (meaning I’ll post it for you, chapter by chapter, just like the others!) AND I’ll share some small stories He brings as they occur, because as my late friend, Sandy, said, “Nina, you DO journal, you just call it blogging…”
Here’s the info you can look forward to in coming weeks –
- how to deal with our big emotions
- the way to respect yourself so respect towards others actually has value
- how to not only be seen and heard but have influence in your marriage relationship
- how to overcome shame
- how to build connection with that guy you married
- how to have peace and stop walking on eggshells
We’re also creating a new free course for wives in an effort to help during this ugly economy. We know what works (cuz He told us, not cuz we are so neat, lol) and have a 100% success rating a full year later after working with couples who have participated in our training, and we just can’t sit on that. In the meantime, if you feel led, please check out the story He wove through this beautiful woman’s life and see how she’s impacted Greater Impact. She’s now on our team!
(PS… if you want to grab a free pdf about finding your voice and how to stop walking on eggshells, grab that here)
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