Do you love your kids more than you love God?
I was wrong.
In Twelve Truths to Change Your Marriage, there’s a story about how I was sitting around a table with a bunch of women at Bible study one morning and the Holy Spirit convicted me that I had something “on the throne” instead of God: MY KIDS.
When Jesus had come back from the dead, He asked Peter, “Do you love me more than these?” (John 21:15).
He was referring to the other disciples.
He could have been referring to us, too.
Want some good news in the midst of being uber mad at me? 🙂
I love my kids even MORE than when I had the realization that I loved them more than I loved God. Want to know what is different? I love God more than I did then – and I love Him more than anything or anyone now.
And THAT love has filled me with a desire to “do the right thing” to follow Him, to obey Him – and it has made me a better parent. I’m not saying I’m perfect – FAR FAR from it – but I don’t struggle as much as I could with “doing hard things” (aka “enabling” or “rescuing”) in decision making with my kids…
You know what I mean – the kinds of decisions that allow for short term suffering, like letting your kid make a bad decision so they LEARN on their own, instead of striving for “all the perfect choices” and making all their decisions for them.
And sometimes I wonder if husbands would love and respect their wives better and wives would respect and love their husbands better, if we wouldn’t be working so hard at orchestrating perfect outcomes for our kids.
It may be why so many kids are “failing to launch” in this 20-something generation. It may also be why kids are maturing later, and as a result, marriage rates are at an all time low. In looking back to Monday’s post about the Life Hacks that kept my sanity while surviving motherhood and working life balance while working part time and home schooling, I realized that the women that gave me those tips were actually ones that loved God more than their kids, or anything or anyone else, too.
We’re not supposed to have other “idols” and we’re to love Him with ALL of our heart, but we don’t have to love our kids less – the heart He’s given us has infinite capacity – you know this as you wonder (if you are a mom) in that last trimester if you could possibly love this child at all, or as much as you love your other children – then you meet her outside the womb, and realize you worried for no reason. 🙂
Dare you today to just ASK HIM to help you Love Him More.
Double dog dare you to ask Him to take His place on the throne in your life. And join us in the discussions we’re having about this – Leah and Debbie are blogging about this, and I’m sure it will get discussed in Leah’s book club on the 12 Truths to Change Your Marriage.
You might also consider becoming “the meanest mom in the world” – it “worked” for us… 🙂
What do you think? How do these thoughts fit with your reality today? And don’t feel guilty – it’s okay to love your kids as much as you love them now. I pray your love continues to grow! 🙂 But how does your love for Him fit into that picture?
Would love to interact with you about this today!
Love to you,