Is This Modest? Respect Dare 30 is titled, “Too Much Skin.”
But…Why should it matter?
It’s oppressive to tell women what is considered modest, right? I mean, the next thing you know, we’ll all end up in burkas to protect our sinful brothers, right?
I find it interesting that in a culture still fighting for women’s rights, that these same women don’t understand how very different men and women actually are. The part of the brain that lights up when a man looks at a TOOL lights up when he sees a scantily clad woman. Is that the kind of attention you want for yourself or your daughter?
We seriously need to help too many people see the research that men and women ARE DIFFERENT. And it matters. God’s known this forever. He made us that way.
As for me, I’d prefer to be MORE than an object to a man.
I wrote this a few years back that caused a bunch of uproar one day. Someone linked to it and a few weeks later, it went viral. Not sure why, but I took a bunch of heat.
Get out of the kitchen, right? 🙂
Today, however, I want to open the dialogue about this issue with you. How do we best model this for our daughters – how do we keep them from being consumed by a culture that wants more of them – their hearts, their bodies, and their very souls.
When do we start, what specifically have you done? What do you SAY to your daughter, how do you SHOP with her, let’s get specific about what we’re doing in this war. How have you changed since we first started talking about it several years ago?
How are you dealing with it for yourself? Do you struggle with it at all?
I know I do – especially during swimsuit season.
And what do you think modesty really even IS? I know we could say this girl wishes she’d behaved more modestly.
When I see my beautiful girl below, I remember her being 8. And I’m shocked that she’s nearly 13 now. With that comes all the drama of middle school. I’m praying like crazy she weathers the days ahead well.
My one big thing is complimenting her character TONS more than I compliment her appearance. I hope it does something good.
You might also enjoy this article and video about Secret Keeper Girl.
It’s interesting that there is a connection between “dressing older” and sexual promiscuity.
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Love to you,
OH! And just as an FYI, our E-course for the fall with The Respect Dare usually fills up really fast. If you want a spot, better grab it. 🙂
Hope you are subscribed – I’m working on a little video about dealing with an angry husband for you.
Thought I’d have it up today, but alas, my computer outwitted me and I have to fix an issue with our security to get it to work. Thanks for the grace. 🙂