A while back, I wrote a post that caused a bit of a ruckus about modesty.
It still surprises me. Given what we’re dealing with in terms of sex and 11 year old girls, I’m honestly surprised more parents aren’t concerned.
And it’s still an issue that women have questions about – I received one this week about a story in The Respect Dare, in fact:
Hey Nina, I am not challenged with dare 30 but am concerned about the message. Are you asking wives to be plain while other single, divorced, or widowed women are dressed in a way that draws their husband’s attention? Are you saying that wives should only be sexy behind close doors with their husbands? This is a conversation that I have seen play out in Christian wives circles so I want to be clear on the message. I understand how extreme the woman in today’s reading was dressed but is she simply an expression of the essence of the message? I am concerned that some wives who have learned to dress in a way that pleases their husbands may scale back too much. Do you mind clarifying in case I am misunderstanding your message?
First, I don’t really have a message, but God does. Second, I really REALLY appreciated the respectful way the woman phrased the question – she didn’t attack me, which, honestly, is too often the way too many people start conversations with others – and then we wonder why our marriages are in trouble. Research shows that conversations typically end the way they begin – and a harsh startup is common to marriages in serious trouble.
My question to YOU, today, is simply this: How does the concept of modesty play out in your marriage and daily life? What verses do you see supporting that? I’ll chime in tomorrow with what my thoughts were/are on this (and what my husband had to say, which was pretty stinkin’ profound…glad I asked-style profound) but I’m REALLY interested in what YOU think about it. How would you respond to this gal? 🙂
Thanks for being on the journey with us!
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Love to you,