You might remember Friday’s post, where I threw a class-A tantrum in my kitchen. I had been believing lies. A while back, I blogged about
Genesis 3:6-7 as part of our on-going series of “What does the bible say about marriage?” As I went to do the next post in this series this morning, I realized that Friday’s experienced tied completely in.
A long time ago, Adam and Eve had a similar experience. Although, admittedly, they weren’t emoting and banging cupboards and pans in response.
8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” 11 And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” 12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” 13 Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
We both did the wrong thing – and initially hid from God.
God spoke to both of us, prompting a response. In looking back, I realized that one of the biggest benefits of regular, consistent time with Him daily results in turning to Him first in the middle of a moment – He’s always there, but we become deaf to Him because the world is so loud. His Spirit can prompt us to turn to Him, but we have to train that into ourselves.
And Adam and Eve and I blamed others. Adam blames “the woman” and God Himself…and Eve blames the serpent and herself (being deceived).
We were all wrong.
While all those things are true, we need to notice that no one’s initial response was to first say, “I’m so sorry, I disobeyed You, God.” On the surface, everyone’s anger and/or blame seems justified. My anger was unjustified last week, Adam and Eve’s blaming is unjustified. I often wonder what would have happened in the world if they had gone to repentance right away – first.
And I wonder a few other things…
Like how many times before had Adam and Eve been close to the tree?
Why were they in the wrong place? Why did they get so close to what was forbidden? Resisting temptation doesn’t mean getting as close as you can, it means staying as far away from it as possible.
Had they talked about it before? Often? Was she wearing Adam out with her disagreement? We know he had told her what the rule was, because she sort of knew the rule, although she added to it. Why did she do that?
Why did God question Adam? It seems to me He’s holding Adam accountable – God doesn’t ask them both where they are (and btw, He’s God – He knows where they are!), but instead He directs His inquiries to “the man.” Many believe this is the passage that demonstrates how God holds men accountable for their families. I would have to concur with that.
Why was Adam passive? Why are so many women today dealing with this same issue in their own husbands?
Why does Eve blame herself? Why do so many women today feel at fault for so much in their lives?
I recently read that God created us with a constant inner turmoil to struggle with pride – that this inclination to worship self is naturally in us by design. I’m not arguing that is the case, but if it is, it would certainly explain why we will always be and always have been, at our core, selfish sinners.
And I find that encouraging.
Because if God’s own original children sinned like this, and of course He knew they would, then Jesus and the redemptive cross was all part of the plan for all of God’s people since the dawn of time.
Knowing that God’s own children stunk at obeying, I can smile at my own when things like Friday’s imperfect kitchen situation occur – and I can smile at some of the critical comments (like the one I received Friday from Ann) because I can know what is true – and make a sometimes-hard choice to not own someone else’s issue.
And the truth is, the BOTTOM LINE is and has always been, that Adam and Eve, and I and my kids, and my husband, have always been and will always be… sinners in need of a Savior. And that knowledge helps me dish grace to myself and the other people I live with.
Thank you God, thank You Jesus.
And I’m so glad you are here today, on the journey with us!
What about you? How does this “sin nature” business play out in your interactions with others? What’s God teaching YOU?
Love to you,