Some Say I’m Wrong…How about You?
Yesterday, I had a meltdown in my kitchen.
Meltdown as in cupboard slamming – sink scrubbing – pot banging – 15 shades of purple mad – no, not mad but hurt – style meltdown.
And it felt familiar, even though I hadn’t actually thrown a full scale tantrum like this in a while.
I was angry because I had asked the people I live with to clean the kitchen after dinner. I made the meal, but went to bed instead of eating. I spent a few days traveling this week, and I was seriously sore (I have a connective tissue disorder that hands me chronic pain issues), plus I am fighting an infection. So yeah, I felt a little more than miffed when I was greeted by a messy kitchen the next morning.
But there was a difference this time… I didn’t say a word to anyone – except God.
I’m reading a book on healing prayer right now (A Guide for Listening and Inner-Healing Prayer: Meeting God in the Broken Places, by Rusty Rustenbach), and the emphasis is listening to God. I absolutely love it because this book confirms what I’ve experienced in my own walk with God, and what is also brought to life in The Respect Dare… the fact that the God of the Universe wants real relationship with me (and YOU),
and that He will actually communicate with us if we are open to that.
So back to the kitchen…
I asked Him why I was so angry.
He reminded me of a childhood memory, one where I had been misunderstood and devalued by people who should have known me well enough to understand. But they didn’t, and I felt alone. And then His spirit prompted me to wonder what was true. So I asked Him. He showed me that He was there during it all, and what I thought was about me, was really about someone else. I had no idea how this applied to my current situation, so I asked Him.
He brought Philippians 4:8 to mind, and I stopped at “whatever is true.”
My kitchen was a mess not because my family lack of care towards me (which is what the enemy would have me believe), but rather several other factors which happen to be true:
- My teens are lacking in frontal lobe development, that’s the part of the brain that facilitates common sense. So while they are good intentioned, they sometimes don’t manage their time well. It’s nothing personal, they just don’t, and they won’t until their brain is mature, somewhere between ages 25 and 27.
- My son who is usually pretty good about the hand wash was gone that night.
- My other son is male, which means he thinks he is done before he is really done. He doesn’t see (literally) the way a woman does, acutely aware of minute aspects of cleanliness. He’s learning, but he’s a teen, which means it is a little slow going – especially when the routine changes, which it did that night.
- My daughter did a pretty good job for being 12.
- My husband was exhausted from a week of getting up at 4am. And I left him to deal with kids and the evening when I went to bed. He probably wished he could do likewise.
- I know from past history, if I had simply managed the situation and followed up, everyone would have done what I asked them to do.
- I realized I could have been really clear about my expectations, and even told the kids they couldn’t leave the kitchen until it had the Scouting “leave no trace” appearance (not sure why, but that always works for us!).
That may sound like a laundry list of excuses that make me a doormat to some folks, but my God let me know that this is what was true at that moment, and that happened to be everyone needed something called “grace.”
But what’s really amazing is that when He showed me what was true, all of my anger and hurt left me.
As in Poof!! Gone completely.
And I had compassion on the people I live with once again, and decided to be a little more clear or do follow up or ask for follow up if I found myself in similar circumstances again.
I’ve had people tell me that God only speaks to us through the Bible and that what I’m describing isn’t possible.
I don’t believe it. I have experiences that say otherwise.
John 10:27-28 ESV My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand.
Tell Abraham, Jacob, Joseph, Samuel, Job, Moses, Mirium, Deborah, Huldah, Isaiah, David, John, Paul, and a whole plethora of others that He doesn’t speak to us. Tell that to the 11 that saw Jesus and spoke with Him after He was crucified. Well, okay, they’re dead, but you see my point. He’s been speaking all along – it’s more a matter of whether or not we are listening. And you’ll see by the way the Bible reads that He speaks to both genders – males and females have been prophets.
More on that here for those who disagree.
And don’t worry, I’m not suggesting that we walk away from submission or respect in marriage, or in our relationships at work where we are told in 1 Peter to submit to our authorities.
I don’t mean to sound harsh here, but I don’t care if you want to spend a bunch of energy arguing whether or not my experience is biblical or not. I know what I know – because I have relationship with God Himself (even though it is probably a fraction of what is possible with Him) and you can choose to not follow us here or argue if you like. I’m interested in your differing opinion if you want to share it, but it won’t bother me if you disagree. I realize I freak out a few people who don’t experience Him like this.
God has spoken to tons of people throughout history and I believe He’s still speaking today. Check Acts 2:17 ‘And in the last days it will be,’ God says, ‘that I will pour out my Spirit on all people, and your sons and your daughters will prophesy, and your young men will see visions, and your old men will dream dreams. 18 Even on my servants, both men and women, I will pour out my Spirit in those days, and they will prophesy. Yes, we need to be discerning, and yes, we need to verify with the Word that what He has said is from Himself, but since the Word is alive, this actually happens.
I also don’t care if you disagree on whether or not there are differences in how the genders have been created – there are attributes that generally speaking, are specific to most men, and attributes that generally speaking, are specific to women. They might show up differently in different people, as in “femininity” looks different on different women, as does being “masculine.” But for the most part, most women have aspects that are feminine, and most men have aspects that are masculine – and these show up in childhood. As much as some people would like to negate scientific research and the Bible, anyone who has given birth to children of both sexes knows there are differences.
Am I right on that last point? Can I hear an “amen?”
I do know as well that if I give in to the enemy, I’m going to spend a good chunk of my time complaining, debating, arguing, and defending – and none of those are things Jesus did.
It’s easy for people to criticize in their relationships. It’s easy to judge people we don’t know at all or well, and condemn others – whether we’re married to them or “they” are a branch of faith, an organization, or otherwise.
It’s much harder to do life in the trenches with a bunch of broken people who make mistakes leading and encouraging others… even if they’re in our own families or church body.
Dare you to take inventory today. How does all of this sit with you? Double dog dare you to ask Him to teach you how to hear His voice – then HOLD ON TIGHT!
Love that you’re on the journey!
I hear God lots, he’s my friend, my God, the love of my life. We talk.
I also love my husband and he loves God and I have learned to “change men, by God, through prayer!”!!! When we pray God works HIS will out in us, and that includes our mates. I listen to God and he’s always correct! When he said “shut up and stop playing Holy Spirit in your husband’s life, just pray for him,” and I did. Guess what God starting working and it took awhile but I’m seeing the fruit in a big way. Was it worth the wait and prayer, you betcha!!! So does God talk, yes! Do we listen….sometimes. ouch!
Thank you so much for your blog. I read your book and immediately joined the blog. I read and reread both as inspiration and as encouragement daily. God bless you!
Nina, thanks for sharing! I love that you keep it real in your blog! I have thought about this very topic many times through my life. I can remember the first time I “heard” God’s voice-which wasn’t really a voice, but more like a whisper in my brain that wasn’t me. It was so strange to me at that time, but I obeyed and it worked out in an amazing way. I have heard that voice so many times that I now know it and I trust it. I have often thought / wondered why people find it so strange. Wondered why more people don’t understand it / experience it. I KNOW that I am not that special to be one of the few that he speaks to….so I wonder. Is it that he doesn’t speak that often, or that people don’t hear it / listen to / trust it. I have to believe it is the latter. But, then I also know that for me–It has always been very clear and very precise. There has been no choice but for me to know it was him and that I needed to listen. I don’t understand why I get it and others don’t. I still have not fully wrapped my brain around that one…but I do know and trust him. Anyway, once again–thanks for sharing and many blessings to you and your family!
Amen and Amen. Great blog. I totally agree with what you said. I have often thought that those people who say God only speaks from the written word today are missing out on so much. He wants to guide and direct us every moment of our day and He can’t do that unless He speaks to us throughout our day. Thank you so much for sharing about the book. I looked at it and will be purchasing one for myself. Who knows? Maybe once I’ve gone through it to see how good it is and I tell my pastor about it, she’ll want to use it in Bible Study on Wednesday nights.
Big Amen!! I love your transparency. You are so right about the differences in males and females. I have been doing my best to ask for exactly what I want and I continue to be amazed when I receive it. God is so good.
I give a hearty amen to all you have written in this post. Thank you for being real and honest. There is way to much of this, “everything is fine, great, wonderful,” going on! If we do not speak truth then how can we share one another’s burdens? Or be salt and light, or offer encouragement to other who share this journey called life? I too love the way our Father speaks to us. So many many times I hear His still small voice speaking truth into the circumstances I find myself in. And I know from experience it takes practice and seeking His voice to become attuned to it in our hearts! Love in Him, and blessings as we share this glorious journey together, Becky
Thanks so much, Becky. I fully agree. And I’m so glad you are here!
Love to you,
Thank you for sharing this! I know not everyone will understand. But what you are saying makes total sense to me. I hear God’s voice in a similar way – and I am SO THANKFUL for those times! Yes, He speaks through His Word, and sometimes through other people and sometimes that still small voice.
I”m so glad you listened. Isn’t it amazing how His perspective can help all the anger and resentment disappear!?!
I wish I could hug your neck! The hardest times to extend grace and to act in the power of God’s Spirit are the times when our flesh is the weakest. Thankfully – when I am weak, then He is strong.
Thank you for ministering to so many hurting wives who are in similar situations.
Praying for you, your family and your ministry often – for God to give you wisdom, power, courage, boldness, direction and His message – spoken by His Spirit in His truth.
With much love,
Wow, how fitting! Last night I too was EXHAUSTED and went to bed, worn out, defeated, and feeling inadequate. I laid in bed thinking if I wasn’t there would my family realize and appreciate everything I do and would they step up and do things they know need to be done, but just assume I will do them. I cried myself to sleep, woke up extremely bitter and angry at everyone, especially my husband, who was obviously oblivious to life around him. He woke up with me (he’s off on Fridays and this was unusual) in my anger to get the kids up and dressed he said I’ll take the kids to school this morning! MY JAW DROPPED and I casually said OK, I’ll finish getting everyone ready and I did and away they left. This is the FIRST TIME IN 12 YEARS he has offered to take the kids to school! I continued to clean my kitchen still stunned by those actions. On the way to work I prayed to work on my appreciation to my husband, that I don’t always physically see his efforts for our household. I just sent him a nice text message and he actually responded “no problem” typically I don’t get responses. Not sure where this is going, but thanks for being real! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE reading your blogs! Here is to Grace, Forgiveness, and some super duper chore charts : )
I agree with everything you said here. My husband and I are separated right now, but God has told me three times he’s coming home. He has used the bible and pointed me to specific scripture, as in Philemon ( a book I confess I never even looked at) I opened my bible after asking God to “show me something” to this book
And my eyes went only to verse 12 ” I am sending him-my very heart-back to you”, the next night I went to this verse for encouragement but instead my eyes jumped to verse 15, ” perhaps he has been for a little while so he can be returned to you for good”. That is all ie read of Philemon. I KNOW GOD used those scriptures to speak to me a few weeks ago. I am no way a bible scholar, there is no way I could have gone to those verses with his guidance. He has spoken to me once more and said my husband is coming home, a chaned man and it may take a little while. Another thing God has been very clear on is that I am in his way. I keep trying to control the situation and I have to get out of the way so God can be God. He’s been telling me this the whole 4 months but I think it sunk in finally just last night. So yes, I believe he speaks to us in many ways. I went to a “Celebrate Recovery” church service at my church last night. I attended a codependency support group afterwards. A couple people looked at me like I was crazy when I shared this and the fact I refuse to even discuss divorce. But that’s ok because I know, what I Know, what I know. I also feel my husband has been unfaithful, at the very least emotionally involved. He denies it and I have no solid proof. The odd thing is I has always said I could never forgive infidelity but it is amazing the grace and mercy God has allowed me to
Extend. That is honestly no longer consuming me. I realize I can forgive him. I just want my family back together and my marriage stronger. I am praying specifically for him to be home for the holidays. Please join with me in this desire because I Know it’s what God wants too. Thank you!
The Lord has laid it on my heart to reply to your post. My husband and I have been remarried to one another 18 years . . . longer now than the first time we were married to one another. Your story is so familiar to me but I was the one who left. Our marriage was dead and I could hardly set foot in our cold home. Our reconciliation and subsequent restoration took 5 years.
I knew the Lord but I was far from Him at the time. . . my husband was not saved but our separation led him to seek Him and he found “covenant keepers”. He made a commitment to the Lord that even if I never came back. . . he would keep his covenant with God. I tried to discourage him . . . I had been unfaithful . . . but he continued to love me anyway. He would do random acts of kindness . . . always my handyman or mechanic . . . drove me back and forth when I couldn’t drive after reconstructive surgery on my knee . . . made me food . . . sent roses on our anniversary after we had been divorced . . . always praying for me. At times I would just shake my head and say to myself “what is wrong with him”! He didn’t do those things with an ulterior motive, only love. It still makes me cry when I think about how kind he was when I was so hateful. Everyone told him to stop being an “idiot” . . . he didn’t care.
He completely surrendered the situation to the Lord without any timetable just trusting Him. After a series of events that brought me to the end of myself . . . I was broken when I clearly heard in my spirit while trying to drive to work . . . barely able to see through my tears . . . “if I continued on this path I would never find what I had been searching for but if I would just be OBEDIENT and return to my husband . . . HE (the Lord) would give me the desires of my heart”.
I knew what I had to do but I would not have been ready one second sooner. That evening I went to my husband and I asked him if he would marry me. He was shocked and in disbelief but a month and 1/2 later we were remarried. I wish I could say that it’s been blissful ever since but we have had to work really, really hard. The Lord is the center of our lives and He is our compass. We are constantly doing things to improve our communication skills, respecting one another and keeping the “weeds out of our garden”. We look for ways to bless one another. We were not just restored, we were resurrected!
Tammy, I just want to suggest one thing, please try not to set a time frame on your husband returning . . . let the Lord be your Husband. Many things are going on behind the scenes in your husbands heart and it may take more time than you had hoped . . . don’t despair, just stay close to the Lover of Your Soul . . . He hears You.
Thank you so much. Your story is beautiful. Were you involved with others along the way? Did your husband ever date? I know I should not give God a time frame. That is the desire of my heart, but I know I can’t expect it. He was supposed to come tonight to watch a movie, carve a pumpkin, stay the night And canceled at the last minute. He pretended to be upset with me about something and gave that as the reason. I feel a better opportunity came along and he put that before his family. It hurts but I’m determined to continue to show love and grace. Sometimes I don’t know how to handle it. Some think I’m being a ” doormat”. I just feel I am doing what I’m supposed to do as a Christian spouse. My husband is a believer who is clearly deceived at this time. Please pray for my boys and the restoration of our family. Thanks again.
Nina, I have been on a journey towards respecting my husband for several years now! I am currently doing the dare… This particular article struck my heart. Often with my children ( 8 & 9) I am sharp and expect to much perfection instead of guiding them gently. Anger is there as well 🙁 The way you handled your frustration about it – such an inspiration. Loosing the anger like that before kids are dealt with makes them trust & respect you more as well since you won’t come off as a stark, raving lunatic. Thank you as well for your graceful reply to Ann. I work for my father in a church setting. I find myself trying not to be hurt or react to his responses constantly. This whole entry just touched my heart. Thank you for sharing!
I am so Thankful God has chosen you Nina to share these things with us! I can relate on taking things personally and turning my hurt to anger, trying to work on it is a process, but I am thankful God is in control! I also have CFS , Fibro, food allergies that all add stress and pressure to run my household smoothly. Which by the way is a rarity or not quite up to my liking. Thank you for your insight and helping me rely more on God for help and Grace.
He is so good, all the time! 🙂
Love it that you are here!
Love to you,
After one particular episode… my husband had been especially hurtful…
It had been a full on personal character assassination..
I was ready to throw in the towel. It was a sunday eve. I took off in the car and drove to church.. you can only imagine the hateful thoughts i was allowing satan to fill my head with.
I sat in the pew.. bawling.. waiting for the service to end so i could tell everyone there how horrible my husband was.
In the midst of this.. I heard a voice.. “Go home. He needs you”
There was no doubt in my mind that it was God himself speaking to me… and i realized that i had been listening the other guy…
So I went home. Unharmed… kbowing that God loves me.. and wanted me to be there. Home.
Since then I have been much more aware of what “voice” I am listening to… God is Amazing. And He is enough.
And the God of this universe does war with pots, transforms peoples by languages spontaneously, and provides salvation from hell through Himself on a cross – none of it done the way we would do it, but His ways are not our ways. I love that you get this. I’m so sorry you struggled – but He IS enough. I love that you get this. 🙂 I said that already.
That’s okay. 🙂
I still just love it.
We all have “those” days when what we hope will happen does not equal reality, especially with teenagers. They look grown up but are really just large children. God does speak to those who are willing to listen. The pity is most Christians-like small children –are hard of listening. Usually because they are too busy talking.
Colleen – Indeed! Parenting teens is crazy wonderful hard work. Glad you understand! 🙂
Love to you,
Thank you for sharing this. I, also have started asking God to help me know what angers me, when I am in a situation such as you describe. In the end going to God with the anger is so much more helpful than just reacting to the people I love. I think you are also part of Gods communication to others. Case in point, I have an older male teen, a younger male teen and a preteen daughter. What you write is directly applicable to me. One other thing I do in home care situations when I am angry is to leave the work. It won’t disappear and after prayer and time, I can, even joyfully tackle the laundry or kitchen or whatever it is that needs doing. Keep on writing and doing what you are doing. You are having a direct impact on families and marriages. Thank you and God Bless you and your ministry.
Thank you, Melonie. God is good, all the time. 🙂 So glad you are here! I agree on the “leave the work” thing – and if God had told me differently, I would have. But He didn’t. 🙂 And it’s my hope to not be so arrogant and prideful that I’m “above” serving my family.
Love to you,
Learning to use our voices, and learning to hear God’s voice. Something I’ve been blogging about as I work with Jo Ann on her book launch – and your post made me think of what I wrote just this week about anger and strong emotions like frustration.
Instead of pasting it all here, I invite you to come and read: http://strawberryroan.blogspot.ca/2013/10/rebuilding-walls.html
Oh and Nina, there are horses! 😉
Love your post, love your words and you get a hearty AMEN from me sister! You nailed it. BANG!
You are a blessing, don’t let anyone steal your voice or diminish you because they love to argue about minutia!
Awesome! Can’t wait to take a look! 🙂
Love to you,
I am sorry, but even a 12 year old should be able to take care of cleaning the kitchen. You did say your daughter did pretty well for her age, so CERTAINLY your teenage son should have also been able to do well, and in fact, better! (Have you not heard of The Duggars? They have kids younger than 12 who work on cleaning the kitchen! And in our household, basic loading dishes into the dishwasher/unloading dishes into the dishwasher, soaking dishes in the sink, these are all tasks expected to be known.) Sounds like you are enabling your children and not teaching them proper responsibilities. I am sorry, but God does NOT expect you to be the only one serving in your family, and THIS comes from a covered Christian woman. Hello, your blog is about RESPECT, and respect is a two way street, and while, yes, you can deal silently in prayer about this situation, you need to be doing a better job at teaching your kids that they need to be respecting your role as a parent and stepping up to the plate with household chores, even on a night where the situation was different–they should have still been in automatic mode to know that it was THEIR job to clean the kitchen. Do you take out the garbage for them too? Wash all their laundry?
Ann, I’m so sorry – something about my blog today seems to have upset you. I think you have read more into it than I intended, and your words are sharp against my heart this morning and I’m trying to not take them personally. I could be wrong here, but it seems many inferences are being made that are simply not true. Maybe the post below will help you understand, or perhaps not, but it wasn’t my attempt to have a large parenting discussion here today, but rather discuss a moment with the Father. I’m sensing you disagree with how He led me, and I don’t know what to say to that. I agree with the “automatic” mode, and perhaps your home runs perfectly all the time – but it doesn’t always in mine. The people I live with, including myself, are far from perfect, and we all make mistakes. We try to serve up grace as part of our environment, too, and I pray that also becomes automatic. The truth is they got about 3/4 of it done, which shouldn’t have elicited the response it did from me. 🙂 http://ninaroesner.com/2013/05/06/but-he-treats-me-with-disrespect/
At any rate, I’m glad you are here, and thank you for the interaction. You are right, the Duggars are awesome. I also like “Large Family Logistics.”
Love to you,
This sounds like a one time incident. Nina isnt condoning her children’s actions ir lack thereof.. she is being Real. And thanking God for helping her with her reaction to it all.
Have some respect… and a measure of grace.
Ann may I ask why it seems like this post has so much anger and sternness behind it? It seems you are judging Nina and her children quite harshly when the presenting point of this post is on sharing how we can hear from God in any situation and learning to act in his will.
I agree that you are correct that we have a duty to train our children and instill responsibility. However,in my experiences the stark reality is that all the training in the world does not equal guaranteed responses from other human beings. I think the Duggers, while great, are a poor representation of reality. TV shows are very slanted in the actual portrayal. We are only shown the view the producers choose and that is never the full picture. I imagine like all children they have moments they miss the mark in obeying.
The bible is very clear to be slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to anger. Something I need much more practice on myself. We are told that life and death are also in the words we speak. I personally think if I/we were all able to speak with God and wait to have him revel the heart and intentions of others, then like Nina, we would be able to respond with a Godly response which might be completely different that what we assume is needed.
God alone knows the depths of our intentions towards others. He hears our fears, concerns, hurts, joys and every other unspoken thought. I know first hand that my own actions have been misunderstood many times. I know I have misunderstood many others as well. I am just thankful that we have a heavenly father that we can speak to in all things. I can’t speak for anyone else but I hope that I can actively learn to speak with God on everything.
Love the part about the brain maturity…so true and a LOT of people don’t understand this or want to deny that it definitely plays a part in how we operate….
Also love the part about how we need to be really clear about our expectations…something I am still working on.
Be blessed dear lady friend, you are on a good track. No arguements from me about God speaking to us!
Amen. I’m still working on all of it too! 🙂 It seems that when we are young, brain maturity is the issue, and then as we age, forgetfulness is the issue – there’s always opportunities for grace! 🙂
So glad you are here!
Love to you,
Well, I guess we can be crazy together!! (And with a whole BUNCH of other people that I know and love.)
I know that God speaks to me because a lot of times the “thoughts” that pop into my head are so completely against the reality of the moment.
* Like the time I was broken and begging God to please show mercy in the midst of complicated relationships and He said “My child, I am in control. You never doubted my forgiveness of the sin, so do not doubt my control of the consequence. It is all in My hands.”
*Like the time when I found out horrible news and was frantic with the long list of possibilities this news was bringing in my life and He said “Be still and know that I am God”
*Like the time when I awakened with the sickening feeling of how I went to bed after a stupid argument with my teenager and He said “Because of My great love, you will not be consumed. My mercies are new to you every morning”
I could go on and on and on. He speaks. I’m a sheep. 🙂
…….and I totally needed to read this today. Decided to show grace this morning after a week long frustration with my 12 year old, it was hard but grace comes to the undeserving. Confirmation is good.
Stellar. 🙂 I love this family. 🙂 Glad God used the blog to confirm something He was doing with you! 🙂
Love to you,
Thanks for making me laugh. It’s funny to hear you call your family, “the people I live with.” Sometimes, I too feel the same way. There are times when I’m reminded of my college days, living with a bunch of roommates.
I really chuckled when I read your explanation for teenage behavior, ” My teens are lacking in frontal lobe development, that’s the part of the brain that facilitates common sense.” – How true!
Your post is resonating with me today. Thank you for sharing.
🙂 Agreed. And the older they get, the more roomate-ish they can be! I told one of my kids last night, “I don’t like this part of our relationship, where I have to be the parent and execute consequences because of something you’ve done – I really prefer the ‘friendship’ part of our relationship, and I look forward to the days when that’s all we’re about.” Tough balance sometimes, but groundings still need to occur… 🙂
Glad you are here!
if I give in to the enemy, I’m going to spend a good chunk of my time complaining, debating, arguing, and defending – and none of those are things Jesus did. <<<I love this 🙂
I posted it on my twittee, thanks for sharing.
And BTW… I believe all the way that God can and wills to speak to us like this…clearly. He is an extremely personal God!! ♡♥♡ And it doesn't matter what people say If what He speaks to u aligns with His Word than just shows how close you are with your Savior. 🙂 And that's all that really matters at the end. ..
Agreed – He IS. It is all that matters – it is everything. 🙂
Love to you,
Love this! Thanks for the reminder that sometimes what we see as an evil act of defiance is really nothing more than sloppy habits or forgetfulness!
Sometimes that is just the truth, isn’t it? 🙂 I wish I didn’t get some of my exercise by jumping to conclusions. 🙂
Love to you,
Wow, sis thank you for being obedient to write this blog! I just experience something similar last night & this morning- that left me feeling unappreciated, unloved & devalued by my family lol ” the people I live with”. But As a loving Father God always speaks to your heart through Devine connection! And having quiet time reading your blog & other women just like YOU, just like ME sharing their heart and being real & transparent and truly desire to be obedient to Gods will and are not to arrogant & understand we are NOT perfect… to say I was ANGRY and hurt by my families actions but I gave it to God and this is what he showed me about ME! Doesn’t mean they couldn’t have helped more but isn’t it wonderful to extend the same grace to your family that we are given… I had to call my college grad that has returned home for a while and apologize & my husband & son….doesn’t excuse their behavior but I handled things so wrongly with my emotions & tongue. I’m so thankful we have each other to encourage & say its ok I’m not perfect either…. I just love your group blog!!! Thank you and thank you for your sweet humility & wisdom in responding to Ann…
I know, right? How many times a day do I get to apologize? 🙂
Wish the number was fewer…but perhaps even though it is large, years ago, I didn’t even know to do so. Progress perhaps, or more of Him, sometimes, less of me.
Love that you are here!
Love to you,
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