Ten years ago, he broke their covenant… with another woman.
He seemed repentant. He apologized. He said it was over.
And a few months ago, she started wondering again.
She confronted him, Matthew 18-style.
He denied it.
But he seemed secretive. And distant.
So she confronted him again.
He assured her nothing was going on…accused her of being crazy.
But there were odd things going on… receipts for flowers and small gifts she never saw. He always had a reasonable explanation. They were for his daughter, for his sister, for his mom. “You’re paranoid. Crazy,” he said. She wondered.
She began to wonder what the truth was.
She began to worry that she was crazy.
She was outside, in the pouring rain. In desperation, she prayed, “Lord, show me the truth. I literally have no idea. Am I crazy? Is there something wrong with me?”
And immediately, she sensed she should walk around to the back of the house to the curtained gazebo on the back deck.
Through the rain, she heard his voice.
“She’s starting to get suspicious again. We’re going to have to tone it down,” he said.
She opened the curtain and stared at her husband of over a decade and half on his cell phone.
“I’m not crazy,” she said to him. “You want her? You can have her. I’m leaving you.”
Initially, she told him she was giving him a year. He could figure out what he wanted during that time. He seemed repentant, sorry, and a changed man again. Weeks went by. Then she found the receipt. Flowers again.
And this time, she filed for divorce.
“He needs to figure out how to do life without me. I’ve been his meal ticket all these years, and I’m done.” She has no idea what God will do, but this man seems to need the hardest of roads to understand. He’s panicked. Perhaps he will change. I know she hurts. A lot. This is the hardest thing she’s been through. So we pray.
They both have difficult times ahead of them, but she knows God isn’t finished yet. She hurts. A lot. But she also feels led to do what she is doing, and perhaps the pain will result in a life changed.
I know what you are thinking, that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) but we also often forget 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which reads, “To the married I give this command – not I, but the Lord – a wife should not divorce a husband (but if she does, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband), and a husband should not divorce his wife.”
This verse reminds us that we shouldn’t divorce, but there will be times when we do, and we need to remain unmarried or reconcile if we do… which then implies that would be the purpose in the divorce.
Deep study into this topic reveals a plethora of cultural events which arguably influenced even the interpretation of Jesus’s words on the topic. If you aren’t a member at Bible.org, you should sign up and do some research yourself. Pretty interesting stuff – and lots of different opinions.
Love that you are here, love that you are on the journey.
What do you think? Have you researched this? Got thoughts about today’s post?