In the midst of all the news about Petraeus, some of us are wondering about our husbands… wondering if he seems distant. Don’t spend time there creating any issues, but if you have already noticed your husband is distant, we have a small thing that might be of help…
Ever notice how much of the Bible seems like a paradox? Some of the advice seems completely contrary to what makes sense…
I suppose that’s why it’s called a “faith journey.”
You know what I’m talking about… those passages where you hear things like:
- Whoever wants to be first will be last
- To live you must die
- The sorrowful will rejoice
- The poor will give others wealth
- If you sow in tears, you’ll reap in sheaves of joy
- Count all sufferings joy…
And this thing I’m going to suggest to you is going to seem like just the opposite of what you should do… and yes, there may be situations where it’s NOT what you want to do… but here goes anyway…
Touch your husband.
Like 3-5 times a day, hug him, tackle him, kiss the back of his neck, rub his shoulders, sit on his lap, hold his hand, whatever, but TOUCH HIM.
Here’s why: brain research on the bonding hormone, oxytocin, shows that your husband’s wired for daily depletion. He has very little of this hormone – he needs your help in building it up within him – and it’s the thing that makes him feel connected to you. GOBS of touch…and oh, yeah, there’s that other thing that will cause it to release. J That too. J
Help him connect by initiating touch. Even if it’s not his love language.
Double dog dare you to make it part of every single day. It can make a difference.
Love to you!