The words of Bon Jovi rang out as the kids played Guitar Hero:“Woaho living on a prayer, take my hand, we’ll make it I swear – woaho living on a prayer.” I looked at my friend of 18 years, Cynthia, and she smiled.
Having just a few weeks left of life while suffering the pain of bone cancer will cause anyone to live on a prayer.
After driving 5 hours to spend a short weekend with her before she goes Home, my husband blessed Cynthia, her daughter and me with about 7 hours of time together. Two of my three kids knew her very well and were thankful to get to see her on Friday night. They were also thankful to go run around Nashville with their dad and do fun things the next day.
My husband took not only our kids, but Cynthia’s grand-daughter with him. This spoke volumes to me of how much he loves and cares for me and of what a great man he is. While he has three children of his own that he cherishes and loves to play with, he’s not all that hip on other people’s children until he’s known them for a while. This was the first time he had met Cynthia’s grand-daughter, and he enthusiastically embraced taking her out for a while. She liked him and our children so much she actually “stowed away” in our van when we were leaving!
It occured to me as well that for the first ten years of our marriage, I tried to force intimacy on this man by telling him how to respond to me. What has been an utter surprise and delight is that when I started figuring out the respect piece in an effort to obey God’s word (Ephesians 5:33b, “and the wife must respect her husband”), He blessed me with the marriage I’ve always wanted.
Bottom Line: Respect your husband and over time, your marriage will glorify God!
Be sure to check back on Friday. I’m almost ready to talk about suffering. Pray for my friend. She was moved to in-unit hospice on Tuesday.