Ever wonder why you’re still fighting? Wish there was something you could do about it? I talk to tons of people who are in relationships that have the same cycle – someone states an opinion, the other notes their opposing thoughts, the other person disagrees with that, then the other explains all their reasons why …
I originally sent a version of this short note to someone God had on my heart for weeks… and then He kept bringing others to mind in such a way as there were so many of you… and so here we are. I’ve been grieving with/for you this season. And God’s been prompting me to …
We all have toxic people in our lives. Sometimes they are US. One morning last week in the communication class I teach at a local college, we were covering relationship-damaging behaviors, and what indicates a potentially toxic future relationship. I saw an act of bravery that gave me a moment of pause. One of my …
Are you or do you know someone who gets defensive easily? You’re often surprised by their reaction – they take things personally, are easily offended, and make things about them. Sound familiar? The other side of this is being the person whose feelings are easily hurt. Whether you are in a marriage that is struggling, …
Do you just LOVE the negative environment you’re in? Enjoying the constant complaining, criticizing, and condemning that’s going on? I didn’t think so… Wish you could change the atmosphere? You know the feeling, sitting around the dinner table, everyone talking about their day, but instead of a “this is what happened to me,” in a …
Spouse walks in, sits down, doesn’t acknowledge your presence, ignores your greeting, starts scrolling on the phone. You’re standing there wondering, “Will it always be like this?”or worse, “Can this marriage even be saved?” Most people would want to lash out at that point. Who wouldn’t? You’ve been lonely for a long time, misunderstood, attacked. …
Four Things You Need to Feel Loved in Your Marriage…
You want to feel loved in your marriage, right? Like more-than-anything-style, it’s the thing you want most, right? If you’re like most of the women we help, this is true for you, too. Yes, respect, but mostly love for us girls. And no, I’m not up for discussing the gender differences today. I AM going …
5 Steps to Putting the Brakes on Divorce…
Maybe you’re thinking about it. Maybe the dreaded, “D-word” has popped out of your mouth in a sentence. Maybe you find yourself thinking, “I can’t keep living like this. I need to get away from this pain.” Or… “I hate him/her.” Or even worse, “I feel nothing towards him/her anymore. Why am I even bothering?” …
Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage
Few people probably Google “ways to destroy my marriage,” but we all need to pay attention to some marriage-destroying communication behaviors. Sometimes we learn from knowing what NOT to do. 🙂 Bear in mind, I’m not one given to sarcasm, and this post is literally dripping with it. I hope you aren’t offended, but a …
Top 10 Ways to Disrespect Yourself…
The Respect Dare journey can be a difficult to do, depending on several factors: The extent to which you respect yourself (have healthy boundaries with other people) How much you wrap your identity up in what God says, as opposed to what people say (if we are constantly seeking approval, or conversely, watching eagerly for …