When you are the only one trying in your marriage…

aka "How wise women handle unloving behavior"

I know it hurts when it seems you are the only one trying in your marriage. You might wonder if it is you, and struggle with why he won’t change. You don’t know what to do, and maybe you are crying yourself to sleep at night, lonely as all get-out. Last week, we talked through […]

One Way We Cause Defensiveness in Others…

and how a change in our thinking helps to STOP perpetuating conflict...

While there’s more than one way we cause defensiveness in others, today we’re going to start with the most common one. This is our next stop on the RESPECT-101 journey. It coincides nicely with  last week’s post on 3 Ways to Mess up Your Marriage, where we learned how: The need to win Disrespect for self […]

How to be calm during conflict…

and how you can help your kids, your spouse, and your team stop freaking out

Wish you knew how to be calm during conflict?  Dare 4: Whatever We Pay Attention to Grows (yes, I’m writing another book – this time one about respecting self & others, and it will deal with handling conflict, deflating defensiveness, and creating communities of mutual respect and accountability – you can sign up by subscribing […]

Is your teen addicted to technology?

or why to stop doing your kids' homework...and help your kid get the good grades anyway...

Is your teen addicted to technology? Or are you wondering what you might do to keep that from happening? Does this effect their relationship with God, you, the rest of the family, and their friends? Of course it does. And we have a few thoughts on the subject. …  Ever get tempted to do their […]

When your teen is disrespectful…

and a parenting assessment that may shake you up a bit... *YIPES!*

Wondering what to do when your teen is disrespectful? Feeling brave? Join us in this assessment based on Biblical “what works” parenting tips – and at the end of this post, you’ll get a code to join us in our eCourse for With All Due Respect with $59 off the tuition, good through Friday, January […]

I jumped the gun… once again…

Or how excitement makes you (okay, ME) wrong sometimes...

YES!!! I jumped the gun again… So back in the dark ages when I was a human resources manager, a friend who worked for me lovingly said, “So you know you have a “ready-fire-aim” approach to um…like everything…? right?” Um… NO. I didn’t know that. I tend to think of it a little differently, like […]

2 ways to help turn kids into grown-ups

AKA they don't live with you when they are 35...

Part of our job as parents is to help our kids mature, so here’s 2 ways to help turn a kid into a grown-up. Do you have that moment when you look forward to  your kids moving out? You know, the feeling that comes after a sarcastic comment or a wildly emotional issue? The answer […]

Why is My Marriage So Hard?

how our relationship with others reflects our relationship with God...

You are wondering: Why is my marriage so hard? Your struggle is one that is common to women in this culture.  I’m not going to talk about that here.  There’s a hundred reasons in the culture, our upbringing, etc., to blame for this, but the source of the struggle when we know the Truth is […]