Dare #18 of The Respect Dare… What should she do?

In search of the male perspective...

Psychologists will tell us that the “parent-child” or “mothering” style of relating is extremely unhealthy in marriage. What IS healthiest is “adult-adult.” Unfortunately, we don’t always do that. Both men and women can be “parental” or “mothering” in a relationship and “childish.” This manifests itself in ranges of varying levels of controlling behaviors to rebelliousness, […]

Dare #17 Journey – Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. And we recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect […]

Dare #17 of The Respect Dare… How Do You REALLY Feel?

Today’s Dare always gives me pause. Truth is, when negative sentiment over-ride has created a place within a marriage, the wife often can’t translate what her husband actually DOES into a positive character trait. Often these folks are headed for separation or divorce and don’t even realize it. I’ve talked with too many wives who […]

Dare #16 Journey We Need Prayer… for What Changes YOUR Marriage…

What if there was a process to change your marriage? And what if it was not only biblical, but had been proven to work? What if there was even tons of research behind it? And the method had been around for literally decades? Here’s the thing – ALL marriages have conflict. Based on what we’ve […]

Dare #15 of The Respect Dare… GOT STUFF?

Story of Stuff It was 35+ years ago. I stood outside the police station with a group of  12 year olds, waiting for things to get started.  As I watched my dad drive away in the car, my heart started to pound.  The police officer outside started collecting the permission slips from the other kids…and […]

Dare #14 Journey – Is A Lack of Communication Destroying Your Marriage?

The horses grazed in the pasture. The drying grass crunched under my feet as I walked from the barn out to the field, eager to try the new thing I learned the day before thanks to Equus.com. Normally, my process was efficient and productive. Take the lead. Walk to the horses, maybe saying, “hello” to […]

50 Things I Learned From Raising a Challenging Child

A Tribute to Debbie Hitchcock's Daughter August 8, 1988-May 30, 2017

If you had told me that anything in this week was happening, I wouldn’t have believed you. As many of you know, my friend, co-author, and ministry operations director, Debbie Hitchcock, and her husband and friend, and Greater Impact trainer, David Hitchcock, suddenly lost their 29 year old daughter last week.  It’s also the week […]

Dare #1 Journey – Got Expectations?

As promised, this week we begin our new dare journey – it’s for any woman, married or not, of any age. You can find the back story here. I’m looking at this as “Respect 101 – Respecting God, Ourselves, and Others” Dare 1 – Got Expectations? A gangly seventh grader, I stood in front of the long […]

I Got This…

Knowing when God wants you to ask for help

I don’t need help A while back, the forecast threatened frost and I wanted to protect my beautiful, yet heavy, potted lemon tree.  Walking to the driveway to pull the cumbersome planter back  into my garage, I realized it might be difficult to manage. I considered asking my son for help, but didn’t want to add another burden to the long list of […]