Love AND Respect…

In the midst of an overscheduled fall (no one’s fault but my own, and yes, that’s sin, but that’s another story) my husband and I discovered a painful truth. We’d taken our marriage for granted.  When things are good, sometimes we just stop paying attention them. Maybe in your situation, you are still daily showing […]

Driving Under the Influence of Anger…

I apologized to my husband for driving into the side of the garage. Acting childishly, and furious at him over something stupid (and not the point of this blog, so I won’t go into it), I hastily pulled away, paying no attention to the enormous dwelling next to the vehicle, clipping the brick and nailing […]

Praying for Patience…

I have stopped praying for patience. For close to seven years, each time I would send that request heavenward, I would get pregnant. I didn’t know that I didn’t know patience was a fruit of the Spirit that was learned over time. Just being honest here… I literally was hoping for a direct injection of […]

But I Feel So Alone…

“Is this my lot in life? To forever have sorrow and pain as my companions? Will I never have the joy and peace promised me because of my husband’s sin?” My friend wept and I honestly didn’t know what to say to her. The man she trusted her heart to so many years prior seemed […]

Tears, Family, Golden Retrievers, and God’s Character

Standing in the emergency vet lobby, nearly blinded by tears, I again dialed my husband’s cell phone and once more heard his voice mail. In my mind, I envisioned him sitting next to our middle son at the Red’s baseball game, his cell phone turned off in the pocket of his cargo shorts. For a […]

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband

Your husband says to you, “You never…” or “You always…” or whatever.  Your natural reaction is to be what?  How about ticked? Or hurt. Or worse yet, scared. But yes, probably angry.  Unless you are scared.  Or don’t know what to do.  And that usually results in being a doormat.  Which doesn’t work, either. So […]

Angry & Married & Doing Something About It – with the smaller things…

Last night, when my husband came upstairs to go to bed, he woke me.  He didn’t mean to do so, but it happened.  Not because he’s inconsiderate, thoughtless and rude, but because he was half-asleep when he came into the bedroom (he’d fallen asleep on the couch).  After lying awake for about half an hour, […]