Why is My Marriage So Hard?

how our relationships with others reflects our relationship with God...

You are wondering: Why is my marriage so hard? (I’m going to get to this in a second, and you’ll need to hang with me here. I know that if your marriage is so hard you are grasping at anything, you’re going to want to read this AND stick it out to the bottom – […]

What does it mean to submit to your husband?

Have you ever wondered, “What does it mean to submit to your husband?” Or do you just kind of skim over those verses in the Bible, like I used to do, back in the dark ages, when we were first married? I’ve written on this topic a number of times, and I know it often […]

Got Submission?

Got submission? In November, a woman emailed about our Daughters of Sarah course and essentially said, “In Daughters, you say there’s a difference between ‘obeying’ my husband and ‘submitting’ to him – that I don’t have to obey him. Doesn’t God tell us in 1 Peter 3:1-6 to obey our husbands like Sarah did?” I […]

God Can Change Your Marriage in 2016

Do you believe God can change your marriage in 2016? That’s half the battle, right there. Because maybe, just maybe, you’ve given up hope. What if the mess your marriage is in exists because of a number of God-created and poorly humanly handled circumstances and responses? Here’s what we know to be true, things that […]

Married? Miss THIS and you miss a LOT…

Maybe you’ve got this little secret-to-helping-your-marriage gem down solid-style, but if you don’t, if you miss this, you miss a LOT. Been here? 4:30pm. Kids running through the house, chasing each other, squealing like pigs. Dog barking. Phone ringing. Pot boiling. And he’ll be home in an hour. To this chaos. The messy Now you […]

Is he right about submission?

Am interested in hearing your response here – seriously would like to know what YOU think about this guy and if he’s right about submission! 🙂 My husband insists that I ‘obey’ him. He says that ‘submit’ is exactly the same as obedience and that I am sinning by not doing everything he says without […]

My Pastor Harpooned Me…

I’ve never actually been whale-style harpooned, but God used my pastor last week to do something that felt close… And it was exactly what I needed. We sat in his office, my husband and I, working through a situation that had wounded us both. While I can be good at helping our kids navigate some […]

Submissive Wife? Will it Save Her Marriage?

A friend of mine tried everything to save her marriage. She is what any mature Christian woman would call a “submissive wife” – know there’s a difference between that and being a doormat. More here if it’s confusing. And no, I’m not talking about writing up a contract to allow some guy to whip you. […]

What You Want … 2014 Reader Survey Results

We have the 2014 Reader Survey Results! And, if you keep reading til the end, you’ll find a free copy of the Small Group Leader Guide for The Respect Dare (Thomas Nelson, 2012) AND an opportunity for YOU! 🙂 In an effort to make sure I’m loving you the way you want to be loved […]