Dare 1 of The RESPECT DARE…Expectations

Marriage Expectations My daughter and I attended a conference for young girls and their moms. Standing and worshiping together, we clapped hands, waved our arms, and sang our hearts out. We took notes and ate Chick-Fil-A sandwiches for lunch.  We talked and laughed a lot. The main message of the conference dealt with Jesus Christ as […]

The Respect Dare… for Non-Christians

Respect Research 101

Rationale for Respect Several years ago, I had a discussion with a woman who adamantly refused to demonstrate respect towards her husband. She felt he hadn’t done anything to deserve it. She’s not a Christian, and wouldn’t appreciate God’s point of view in the matter.  So, I took an academic approach. Research done at Washington State University […]

The Respect Dare … and His Blessings

Get ready for a life-changing journey

    Brilliant Light of God After a morning run, I rested near our garden pond and listened to the sounds of water cascading over rocks into water.  Glancing back toward the house, I caught an interesting reflection in the large bay windows.  I look at the reflection of a large stand of trees. As the breeze blew the branches […]

Ten Things That Could Destroy Your Marriage

You might be doing them!

Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage We’ve spent the last four weeks addressing the common things we can do to encourage our husband to open up. We’re going to close with some really important information… the top 10 things you might be doing that will destroy your marriage if they aren’t stopped. #10.  Be on the […]

I Got This…

Knowing when God wants you to ask for help

I don’t need help A while back, the forecast threatened frost and I wanted to protect my beautiful, yet heavy, potted lemon tree.  Walking to the driveway to pull the cumbersome planter back  into my garage, I realized it might be difficult to manage. I considered asking my son for help, but didn’t want to add another burden to the long list of […]

A Small Change to STOP Making Others Defensive

Simple phrase that diffuses potential conflict

A turn from defensive I walked into the hallway and said to her, “Baby, you’ll need to do the stairs, there’s dog hair on them.” This was after she’d already put the vacuum away, thinking she was done with her daily chore. I might have heard, “I know!!” from her lips or spotted a complimentary eye-roll for no […]

Phrases that Either Open or Close His Heart

Words that make him defensive

Phrases that either open or close his heart So far we’ve learned how to get and keep our husband’s attention. Today I share several key phrases to avoid. We don’t want to sabotage the conversation by making him feel defensive! I also share a few key phrases to include in your communication that will help keep his […]

Psst… are your thoughts destroying you?

Is self-talk destroying you? Shoulders hunched over, face in a scowl, the thoughts come… “I can’t.” “I’m so lousy at this…” “I wish I’d never started…” “I want to quit.” Or maybe, like the woman in the story in Matthew 9:21, she perseveres, knowing – no, believing – for twelve years – that she will […]