New Dare Journey – Got Expectations?

As promised, today we begin our new dare journey – it’s for any woman, married or not, of any age. You can find the back story here. Invite friends. I can’t wait to get started! 🙂 I’m looking at this as “Respect 101 – Respecting God, Ourselves, and Others” Dare 1 Got Expectations? A gangly […]

My Pastor Harpooned Me…

I’ve never actually been whale-style harpooned, but God used my pastor last week to do something that felt close… And it was exactly what I needed. We sat in his office, my husband and I, working through a situation that had wounded us both. While I can be good at helping our kids navigate some […]

Submissive Wife? Will it Save Her Marriage?

A friend of mine tried everything to save her marriage. She is what any mature Christian woman would call a “submissive wife” – know there’s a difference between that and being a doormat. More here if it’s confusing. And no, I’m not talking about writing up a contract to allow some guy to whip you. […]

Quick TIP! For Handling An Angry Husband…

Got an angry husband? You know that heart-pounding-freaking-out feeling that you hate? That moment where he’s suddenly upset and you are surprised and then your own flight or fight response kicks in? One thing that might help is simply this: create safety for him. Know why he looks angry? He’s DEFENSIVE. He’s wired to be […]

Have You Morphed into His Mom by Doing it ALL?? Respect Dare #33

A good friend of mine revealed recently that instead of being a solid life partner to her husband, somewhere along the line, she morphed into his mother. As I re-read Dare#33 today from The Respect Dare book, I can see how these things occur if situations like the one in the story happen over and […]

Six Ways to Overcome Your Husband’s Anger in the Midst of Conflict

Her husband is angry again. He paces back and forth in the bedroom, looking for his belt, his hand running through his hair. His face wears anxiety. Worry furrows his brow. “Can I help you with anything?” she asks. “I can’t tell you anything because you will think I’m telling you that you’re a bad […]

How Do You REALLY Feel? The Respect Dare Seventeen…

Today’s Dare always gives me pause. Truth is, when negative sentiment over-ride has created a place within a marriage, the wife often can’t translate what her husband actually DOES into a positive character trait. Often these folks are headed for separation or divorce and don’t even realize it. I’ve talked with too many wives who […]