5 Reasons Not to Quit Your Marriage

why to keep hanging on when you think it is over...

You might need more than 5 reasons not to quit your marriage. All I have today is 5. Hang on to the end, and you’ll understand why. If you’re looking for hope today, it’s my goal to dish some. … One Friday in October, Jim and I sat in the surgery waiting area at Children’s […]

Why is My Marriage So Hard?

how our relationships with others reflects our relationship with God...

You are wondering: Why is my marriage so hard? (I’m going to get to this in a second, and you’ll need to hang with me here. I know that if your marriage is so hard you are grasping at anything, you’re going to want to read this AND stick it out to the bottom – […]

Feeling Unappreciated?

aka "how not to get stuck in misery"

Feeling Unappreciated? I have a friend who is seeing a marriage counselor because her marriage is hard. She shared recently with me what she considered a “really small incident” that represents a ton of others. One morning she rose early, made her husband’s lunch for him (usually he made it himself because he leaves really […]

When you are the only one trying in your marriage…

aka "How wise women handle unloving behavior"

I know it hurts when it seems you are the only one trying in your marriage. You might wonder if it is you, and struggle with why he won’t change. You don’t know what to do, and maybe you are crying yourself to sleep at night, lonely as all get-out. Last week, we talked through […]

3 ways to mess up your marriage…

and your other relationships at work, home, and play

There are certainly more than 3 ways to mess up your marriage… today, however, we’ll be looking just 3…and changing them will change ALL of your relationships – and make you happier. … Carla stared at Steve in disbelief. All she had wanted to do was have a simple conversation about where to go for […]

Respect 101… and the hazards of being assertive

Assertive women are perceived MORE negatively and less competent than assertive men.

Respect 101 and the hazards of being assertive… Got respect? Know why it matters to men? The other night while I was teaching public speaking at our local community college, I made a comment that rattled the cages of a few of the women. I didn’t mean to upset them, but they needed to know […]

One man’s opinion about defensiveness…

Ever ask a man about defensiveness? A little while back, a class member asked me a question about her husband. He had made fun of a disabled person and was angry about how long it took to get through the grocery line. She has been at a loss at how to deal with these things. […]

Marriage Myths that Might be Making a Mess of Your Marriage

Debunking the Marriage Myths Over the next few weeks, I’m going to have some posts up about what is and isn’t true about marriage – and it’s based on research. We’ll be unpacking a few simple ideas that may have skewed your thinking for years, help you understand why they’re damaging, give you some ways […]