5 Reasons Not to Quit Your Marriage

why to keep hanging on when you think it is over...

You might need more than 5 reasons not to quit your marriage. All I have today is 5. Hang on to the end, and you’ll understand why. If you’re looking for hope today, it’s my goal to dish some. … One Friday in October, Jim and I sat in the surgery waiting area at Children’s […]

Why is My Marriage So Hard?

how our relationships with others reflects our relationship with God...

You are wondering: Why is my marriage so hard? (I’m going to get to this in a second, and you’ll need to hang with me here. I know that if your marriage is so hard you are grasping at anything, you’re going to want to read this AND stick it out to the bottom – […]

Feeling Unappreciated?

aka "how not to get stuck in misery"

Feeling Unappreciated? I have a friend who is seeing a marriage counselor because her marriage is hard. She shared recently with me what she considered a “really small incident” that represents a ton of others. One morning she rose early, made her husband’s lunch for him (usually he made it himself because he leaves really […]

When you are the only one trying in your marriage…

aka "How wise women handle unloving behavior"

I know it hurts when it seems you are the only one trying in your marriage. You might wonder if it is you, and struggle with why he won’t change. You don’t know what to do, and maybe you are crying yourself to sleep at night, lonely as all get-out. Last week, we talked through […]

One Way We Cause Defensiveness in Others…

and how a change in our thinking helps to STOP perpetuating conflict...

While there’s more than one way we cause defensiveness in others, today we’re going to start with the most common one. This is our next stop on the RESPECT-101 journey. It coincides nicely with  last week’s post on 3 Ways to Mess up Your Marriage, where we learned how: The need to win Disrespect for self […]

3 ways to mess up your marriage…

and your other relationships at work, home, and play

There are certainly more than 3 ways to mess up your marriage… today, however, we’ll be looking just 3…and changing them will change ALL of your relationships – and make you happier. … Carla stared at Steve in disbelief. All she had wanted to do was have a simple conversation about where to go for […]

Lose weight and keep it off…

...how changing how you think & how you receive & give love can change your life...

If there were a way for you to lose weight and keep it off wouldn’t you want to know about it? What if the method didn’t involve copious amounts of exercise and calorie counting, discouragement, frustration, and disappointment… and landed you lighter – forever – wouldn’t that be something you’d want even more? I’m going […]

What we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages…

We need to recognize that recent race issues in our country are symptomatic of how America is suffering from mental illness - and it's based on cognitive distortion.

Wondering what we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages? Bear with me for a moment – all these things are connected and you’ll see why in just a minute. Sitting at my computer on Saturday, I started grading exams for my college public speaking courses. When I moused over the […]

Respect 101… and the hazards of being assertive

Assertive women are perceived MORE negatively and less competent than assertive men.

Respect 101 and the hazards of being assertive… Got respect? Know why it matters to men? The other night while I was teaching public speaking at our local community college, I made a comment that rattled the cages of a few of the women. I didn’t mean to upset them, but they needed to know […]