One thing you MUST do in conflict

how respecting yourself can turn your relationship around

Yes. There IS one thing you simply MUST do when in conflict. If you don’t, you’ll stay stuck, won’t resolve things, and be discouraged. And your relationship simply won’t change. What I’m about to share with you is something that will change your life if you can do it. I want to give you the […]

Dare #12 of The Respect Dare… Submission without becoming a Doormat

Showing Grace Wasted home-cooked meal on the counter. Over night. Some people just don’t get it. I confess I’ve been one of them. And I can RIGHT NOW relate to the woman in Dare 12. She’s got 101 things to do, she’s exhausted, she asked for help, and delivery was mediocre. Mind you, when I […]

3 Ways to Handle Rejection

with your husband...

There are probably more than 3 ways to handle rejection. I’m hoping you’ll add some in the comments today if you’d like to encourage some of our ladies here to keep trying! You know what rejection looks like. It can be anything from “Not now,” when pursued, to “No I’m not,” when a compliment is […]

Dare #8 of The Respect Dare – The Problem with Memories

I Remember the Time… The lunge line was in one hand, the end of the rope in the other. I quietly told my horse to lunge (walk a circle) around me to the left. She did this. Then she sprung into the air, and started to gallop. Mane tossed in the wind. Eyes wide. Both […]

Dare #7 of The Respect Dare – If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

Having children is called a blessing in the Bible. It can also ruin your marriage. And not surprisingly, research actually supports this – marital satisfaction declines after children are born, and increases when they are all gone. For me, having kids in their teens and twenties has proven as emotionally exhausting as it was physically […]

Dare #5 of The Respect Dare – Trust God or Idols?

When A Child is Hurt...

Of all the dares in the book, Dare 5 strikes the most nerves. A child is injured. Mom saw it coming. Choose to Trust God? She chose to stay out of His way, and God showed up to teach her husband something. But what if it had been worse? Could you have trusted God’s goodness […]

Dare #4 Journey – 5 Positives for Every Negative…

Negative or Positive? What do you actually DO? I mean, are we supposed to just run around giving compliments like crazy? In research done by Dr. John Gottman, we learn that marriages that are considered “happy” have a number of things in common.  Here’s just a few: A complete absence of contempt 5 “positive” interactions […]

Dare #3 Journey – Continued Self-Assessment

A.K.A. Navel Gazing

Today’s dare is a continuation of #3 – where we continue to torture ourselves with dig into self-evaluation. But before we get into that, I just want to say THANK YOU. Debbie, Dave, and her sons and her family are touched by the outpouring of love and support from you all. The irony of her daughter’s […]