One man’s opinion about defensiveness…


Ever ask a man about defensiveness? A little while back, a class member asked me a question about her husband. He had made fun of a disabled person and was angry about how long it took to get through the grocery line. She has been at a loss at how to deal with these things. […]

Reformed perfectionist…


In yesterday’s blog, I promised you that I would share what God did to change me into a reformed perfectionist. I’d like to say it was some great heroic effort on my part. Or some amazing insight that I had on my own that enlightened me. It wasn’t anything I did. My process of reformation […]

Is perfectionism destroying you or your family?

The characterflaws we ignore in ourselvesinevitably show up in our kids.Be brave.Confess. Apologize. Repent.God is in the transformationbusiness.

Is perfectionism destroying you or your family? I have several people in my life who are battling anxiety. In a discussion with one of them recently, my friend let me know that she feels “robbed” by the anxiety, as though it actually steals something from her. Another friend’s therapist recently labeled her negative thinking as perfectionism […]

Marriage Myths that Might be Making a Mess of Your Marriage

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Debunking the Marriage Myths Over the next few weeks, I’m going to have some posts up about what is and isn’t true about marriage – and it’s based on research. We’ll be unpacking a few simple ideas that may have skewed your thinking for years, help you understand why they’re damaging, give you some ways […]

When you’ve been wronged…


We often think that emotional injury isn’t supposed to happen in marriage, but when you’ve been wronged, or when you hurt the one you love, the Bible’s pretty clear on the course of action that is to follow: Forgiveness. We’ve heard it said that Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to […]

Passive Aggressive Husband?

Are YOU a -fix it- gal-STOP.You're telling your man you don't think he cansolve his own problems.That's disrespect.

Is your husband passive aggressive? According to Google: pas·sive-ag·gres·sive adjective of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials. Men aren’t the only ones capable of being passive aggressive. Women can be […]

Why he disrespects you…


Wondering why he disrespects you? Let’s use an analogy to understand why husbands sometimes disrespect their wives… So let’s say you are an avid runner and want to significantly increase your distance and pace because you want to not only run a marathon, but you want to run it fast enough to qualify for the […]

Why your husband no longer respects YOU…

If you emasculate your man, don't be surprised when he stops acting like one

To think about why your husband no longer respects you is painful. I’m sorry. But you’ve noticed it, right? The disrespect shows up in small ways… and big ones. A look of disdain here… The curved lip of contempt there… Dishes left out for “someone else” to do… same with the dirty laundry… Opinions ignored, […]

Complaining ruining your marriage?


Is complaining ruining your marriage? com·plaining kəmˈplān/ verb gerund or present participle: complaining express dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event. “local authorities complained that they lacked sufficient resources” synonyms: protest, grumble, whine, bleat, carp, cavil, grouse, make a fuss And over time, this behavior creates a climate of negativity that […]