2 ways to help turn kids into grown-ups

AKA they don't live with you when they are 35...


Part of our job as parents is to help our kids mature, so here’s 2 ways to help turn a kid into a grown-up. Do you have that moment when you look forward to  your kids moving out? You know, the feeling that comes after a sarcastic comment or a wildly emotional issue? The answer […]

What we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages…

We need to recognize that recent race issues in our country are symptomatic of how America is suffering from mental illness - and it's based on cognitive distortion.

Wondering what we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages? Bear with me for a moment – all these things are connected and you’ll see why in just a minute. Sitting at my computer on Saturday, I started grading exams for my college public speaking courses. When I moused over the […]

Respect 101… and the hazards of being assertive

Assertive women are perceived MORE negatively and less competent than assertive men.

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Respect 101 and the hazards of being assertive… Got respect? Know why it matters to men? The other night while I was teaching public speaking at our local community college, I made a comment that rattled the cages of a few of the women. I didn’t mean to upset them, but they needed to know […]

One man’s opinion about defensiveness…


Ever ask a man about defensiveness? A little while back, a class member asked me a question about her husband. He had made fun of a disabled person and was angry about how long it took to get through the grocery line. She has been at a loss at how to deal with these things. […]

Is perfectionism destroying you or your family?

The characterflaws we ignore in ourselvesinevitably show up in our kids.Be brave.Confess. Apologize. Repent.God is in the transformationbusiness. ninaroesner.com

Is perfectionism destroying you or your family? I have several people in my life who are battling anxiety. In a discussion with one of them recently, my friend let me know that she feels “robbed” by the anxiety, as though it actually steals something from her. Another friend’s therapist recently labeled her negative thinking as perfectionism […]

Marriage Myths that Might be Making a Mess of Your Marriage

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Debunking the Marriage Myths Over the next few weeks, I’m going to have some posts up about what is and isn’t true about marriage – and it’s based on research. We’ll be unpacking a few simple ideas that may have skewed your thinking for years, help you understand why they’re damaging, give you some ways […]

When you’ve been wronged…


We often think that emotional injury isn’t supposed to happen in marriage, but when you’ve been wronged, or when you hurt the one you love, the Bible’s pretty clear on the course of action that is to follow: Forgiveness. We’ve heard it said that Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to […]

Passive Aggressive Husband?

Are YOU a -fix it- gal-STOP.You're telling your man you don't think he cansolve his own problems.That's disrespect.

Is your husband passive aggressive? According to Google: pas·sive-ag·gres·sive adjective of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials. Men aren’t the only ones capable of being passive aggressive. Women can be […]