Would you trust your kid with THIS?


Would you trust your kid with THIS? Today’s post is a guest entry from my co-author of the book, With All Due Respect, Debbie Hitchcock. Dare you to think about how this topic would be handled by you and your husband today – not just with your teen. Would you be on the same page? […]

How to Deal with Defensiveness

aka how to scare your husband...


If you are looking for how to deal with defensiveness, this may help. So a while back, we ran a survey and discovered a commonly used phrase that instills fear into the average husband. The creator of all this anxiety?  One of the most commonly used phrases by wives around the western world:  “We need to […]

7 Ways to Kick Satan’s Butt

aka...getting unstuck when life's getting you down...


There are seriously more than 7 ways to kick satan’s butt, and I know I don’t often blog about him at all, but I’m feeling led, so here we go. (know that if your marriage is hard, one of the best ways to boot satan is to join our Strength & Dignity eCourse – I […]

5 Reasons Not to Quit Your Marriage

why to keep hanging on when you think it is over...


You might need more than 5 reasons not to quit your marriage. All I have today is 5. Hang on to the end, and you’ll understand why. If you’re looking for hope today, it’s my goal to dish some. (and I have a prayer request, if it’s okay) … Friday, Jim and I sat in […]

Why is My Marriage So Hard?

how our relationships with others reflects our relationship with God...


You are wondering: Why is my marriage so hard? (I’m going to get to this in a second, and you’ll need to hang with me here. I know that if your marriage is so hard you are grasping at anything, you’re going to want to read this AND stick it out to the bottom – […]

Feeling Unappreciated?

aka "how not to get stuck in misery"


Feeling Unappreciated? I have a friend who is seeing a marriage counselor because her marriage is hard. She shared recently with me what she considered a “really small incident” that represents a ton of others. One morning she rose early, made her husband’s lunch for him (usually he made it himself because he leaves really […]

When you are the only one trying in your marriage…

aka "How wise women handle unloving behavior"

quick to listen

I know it hurts when it seems you are the only one trying in your marriage. You might wonder if it is you, and struggle with why he won’t change. You don’t know what to do, and maybe you are crying yourself to sleep at night, lonely as all get-out. Last week, we talked through […]

One Way We Cause Defensiveness in Others…

and how a change in our thinking helps to STOP perpetuating conflict...


While there’s more than one way we cause defensiveness in others, today we’re going to start with the most common one. This is our next stop on the RESPECT-101 journey. It coincides nicely with  last week’s post on 3 Ways to Mess up Your Marriage, where we learned how: The need to win Disrespect for self […]

How to be calm during conflict…

and how you can help your kids, your spouse, and your team stop freaking out

take your businessto the next level! (2)

Wish you knew how to be calm during conflict?  Dare 4: Whatever We Pay Attention to Grows (yes, I’m writing another book – this time one about respecting self & others, and it will deal with handling conflict, deflating defensiveness, and creating communities of mutual respect and accountability – you can sign up by subscribing […]