Why is My Marriage So Hard?

how our relationships with others reflects our relationship with God...

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You are wondering: Why is my marriage so hard? (I’m going to get to this in a second, and you’ll need to hang with me here. I know that if your marriage is so hard you are grasping at anything, you’re going to want to read this AND stick it out to the bottom – […]

Feeling Unappreciated?

aka "how not to get stuck in misery"

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Feeling Unappreciated? I have a friend who is seeing a marriage counselor because her marriage is hard. She shared recently with me what she considered a “really small incident” that represents a ton of others. One morning she rose early, made her husband’s lunch for him (usually he made it himself because he leaves really […]

When you are the only one trying in your marriage…

aka "How wise women handle unloving behavior"

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I know it hurts when it seems you are the only one trying in your marriage. You might wonder if it is you, and struggle with why he won’t change. You don’t know what to do, and maybe you are crying yourself to sleep at night, lonely as all get-out. Last week, we talked through […]

One Way We Cause Defensiveness in Others…

and how a change in our thinking helps to STOP perpetuating conflict...

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While there’s more than one way we cause defensiveness in others, today we’re going to start with the most common one. This is our next stop on the RESPECT-101 journey. It coincides nicely with  last week’s post on 3 Ways to Mess up Your Marriage, where we learned how: The need to win Disrespect for self […]

How to be calm during conflict…

and how you can help your kids, your spouse, and your team stop freaking out

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Wish you knew how to be calm during conflict?  Dare 4: Whatever We Pay Attention to Grows (yes, I’m writing another book – this time one about respecting self & others, and it will deal with handling conflict, deflating defensiveness, and creating communities of mutual respect and accountability – you can sign up by subscribing […]

Is your teen addicted to technology?

or why to stop doing your kids' homework...and help your kid get the good grades anyway...

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Is your teen addicted to technology? Or are you wondering what you might do to keep that from happening? Does this effect their relationship with God, you, the rest of the family, and their friends? Of course it does. And we have a few thoughts on the subject. …  Ever get tempted to do their […]

When your teen is disrespectful…

and a parenting assessment that may shake you up a bit... *YIPES!*

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Wondering what to do when your teen is disrespectful? Feeling brave? Join us in this assessment based on Biblical “what works” and if you want some help right NOW, head over to the FamilyLife Today! Interview with Dennis Rainey & Bob Lepine – you’ll hear the story of how I dealt with one of my […]

I jumped the gun… once again…

Or how excitement makes you (okay, ME) wrong sometimes...

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YES!!! I jumped the gun again… So back in the dark ages when I was a human resources manager, a friend who worked for me lovingly said, “So you know you have a “ready-fire-aim” approach to um…like everything…? right?” Um… NO. I didn’t know that. I tend to think of it a little differently, like […]

Lose weight and keep it off…

...how changing how you think & how you receive & give love can change your life...

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If there were a way for you to lose weight and keep it off wouldn’t you want to know about it? What if the method didn’t involve copious amounts of exercise and calorie counting, discouragement, frustration, and disappointment… and landed you lighter – forever – wouldn’t that be something you’d want even more? I’m going […]