Dare #6 of The Respect Dare – Conflict

Several years ago, I facilitated a retreat that equipped organizational leaders to effectively handle conflict. We spent a good deal of time talking about some of the behaviors of people in the organization. God used the opportunity to remind me of something. Many of the issues and problems that ALL organizations face are due to […]

Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. We recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect that […]

Has the Phrase, “Not a Good Fit” Ever Applied?

“Why didn’t I get the promotion?” he asked, nails dirty, hands wringing his baseball cap. “I’m sorry, it just wasn’t a good fit,” came the response. “Why didn’t I get the job?” she inquired, voice wavering. “I’m sorry, it just wasn’t a good fit,” again, the human-resource-ese. Yesterday I blogged about what Monica Lewinsky and […]

If You Can’t Say Something Nice… Dare Seven of The Respect Dare

Having children is called a blessing in the Bible. It can also ruin your marriage. And not surprisingly, research actually supports this – marital satisfaction declines after children are born, and increases when they are all gone. For me, having kids ages 18, 15, and 12 right now has proven as emotionally exhausting as it […]

3 Quick Ways to Save Your Marriage Today…

Dr. John Gottman has spent his life studying what REALLY works in marriage. He’s made a number of astounding discoveries, not the least of which is the reason counseling only works in turning around a marriage about 25% of the time: much of what we have been taught was not designed for a marriage application, […]

Dare Six… and Why MANY Conflicts Occur…

I spent the weekend doing a leadership retreat an awesome group of FUN leaders – at one point we all burst into a kids’ song, “Encourage one another, and build each other up… build each other up… build each other UP!” ( 🙂 Sorry!) Somehow most of us were familiar with the song, and the […]

6 Mistakes That Destroy Your Marriage…

“I can’t take another day – I feel so alone! My marriage is a servants delight, cook, clean, work, go to school, take care of the children, make sure the laundry is done, supper on the table when the husband gets in, and lay down and let him have his pleasure whenever he feels. Do […]