Feel Like a Doormat?

"How are you?" I asked. "It's DECEMBER, you know," she replied. I nodded knowingly. I wish the reality of my response had instead been confusion, and "Oh? What do you mean?" But the truth is, I'm trying to recover from about a decade of not handling December well. The last three, maybe Continue Reading

Why Marriage is Hard…


Over a decade ago, something happened in my own walk with God that I've found common to people who pursue His calling for their lives as though it is everything to them. Those of us in ministry (and whether you have a tax exempt organization or whether you view being a mom, wife, friend, or Continue Reading

Top 10 Ways to Disrespect Yourself…


The Respect Dare journey can be a difficult to do, depending on several factors: The extent to which you respect yourself (have healthy boundaries with other people) How much you wrap your identity up in what God says, as opposed to what people say (if we are constantly seeking approval, or Continue Reading

Is it Worth it?

What if one of your kids had the opportunity to become famous? What if that opportunity meant life as you know it would dramatically change? No more family dinners, no more having a life of your own for anyone in the family – even the other kids would have to give up their favorite activities Continue Reading

Want More Confidence?

Ever have someone say something that totally catches you off guard?  And then not know how to respond?  I was chatting recently with a friend of mine and she totally surprised me. "I wish I could be like you - you are fearless," she told me. As I listened, I caught my mouth agape. "What?! Why Continue Reading

And once again, I behaved badly…

"I can't believe you didn't remember your shoes!!" I know I reminded her. I know she's 9. But now we can't go in the store. Again. The Holy Spirit helped me stifle the critical remark threatening to escape my lips. You know the one that starts, "How many times have I told you to…" I took a Continue Reading

Dying Marriages and Dead Plants…


She had to sit down to share her story with the class. We listened with rapt attention as she said, "I was in college and had come home for the weekend. I walked into the kitchen, and over heard my parents talking. My mother said to my father, 'You don't understand. It's too late. I've already Continue Reading

Be Careful What You Ask For…

You might get it. Right after Dr. Kevin Leman, Shaunti Feldhahn, and Pastor Mark Gungor endorsed, "The Respect Dare for Married Women," I remembered praying, "Lord, keep me humble. Don't ever let me get a big head over this or anything else. It's Your book, Your creation, I know I just happened to Continue Reading