What to Do with Pain… and Dare Thirty-Six

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Eyes wet, tears slipped down her face. Drowning in sorrow over wrong doing and lack of hope, she fought the hardening of her heart, somewhat unsuccessfully. She's waited for years for things to be different. Worked hard, obeyed, confessed. Whom could she talk to? Who would understand? To Continue Reading

The Respect Dare… Dare Fifteen… GOT STUFF?

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It was 35 years ago. I stood outside the police station with a group of  12 year olds, waiting for things to get started.  As I watched my dad drive away in the car, my heart started to pound.  The police officer outside started collecting the permission slips from the other kids...and I realized Continue Reading

Weekend Round Up… Respect Dare Style

Every time I write "Round Up" I think of horses. But this post has nothing to do with them.  It's a just a quick synopsis of what happened in our little corner of cyber-space, as we traveled through Dare 4 of The Respect Dare. Before I forget, you only have a few hours to take part in Continue Reading

What’s All The Fuss about Miley??


In the wake of Miley Cyrus' activities of late, many are discussing modesty and cultural norms for women. The church is being both criticized for being restrictive and rules-based, and simultaneously hailed for helping young girls navigate these waters. The secular culture is also criticized Continue Reading

Married with Children? Or Without? By Choice?


I stood in the kitchen making dinner and my nearly 12 year old daughter says to me, "I now know why it is so hard to be a mom." My interest piqued, I asked her to tell me more. With two teenage brothers, and being the baby of the family, she knows nearly everything a little earlier than Continue Reading

For Once I Got it Right!


My mother-in-law gave me the best advice when I had my first child. It was the week before I returned to my part-time training job in the evenings. I was lamenting leaving the baby with my husband (her son) and all the things he wouldn't know to do because he didn't take care of him like I Continue Reading

Got a Difficult Marriage? Here’s Hope…


"Those are pretty flowers. Who are they for?" he asked. "Me. I had a horrible week and no one noticed, so I bought them for myself to cheer me up – they were the cheap ones at the grocery, so no worries, okay?" she responded. Silence. She knew he just didn't know what to say. It was Continue Reading

How to Change Your Marriage…


Disappointment threatened to crush my mother's heart as I listened to the child's tale of woe. Like shards of glass under bare feet, we pressed hard together into the painful event and shared tears. Helpless to reinvent history, I offered empathy and hugs and my own sorrow for this precious one's Continue Reading

Can’t Share My Secret…

This weekend, the women from our church got together for a lovely retreat.  At the end of the weekend, there was a public sharing time.  I wanted very much to stand up and talk about what I planned to do as a result of my experience, but did not. I yearned to unburden myself about something Continue Reading

You CAN Change Your Marriage Today …

Proverbs 14:1 (NASV) The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands. I remember when my boys were little and the bazillion times in a day when I would hear, "Watch me, mommy!" Or, "Look what I can do!" My daughter seldom does this, and when she does, it is not to Continue Reading