I Can’t Take Another Day…

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    “33 years is a long time to have a parched soul,” she said. The words, “wimpy,” or “spoiled,” do not apply to her. Their marriage has weathered an affair, unemployment, miscarriage, 6 children, various parenting heartaches and a few bouts of depression. And this day, she’s finally had enough. “Every day it is […]

A Man’s Broken Heart…

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Last week, a guy who is “someone who is someone” in Christian ministry contacted me to encourage me to keep doing this blog thing. As it turns out, he read this post about pornography, where a man shares the raw truth of addiction. It deeply impacted him. You see, this man I met with encounters […]

Got Pain?

The surgery is a week away. An expert surgeon, one of just a few in the country who does this procedure, will sever the membranes in my 15 year old son’s chest from his sides, slide a curved metal bar through the opening, and then flip it, immediately popping his sternum out of his lungs […]

Have You Suffered?

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It started when I was eight years old. I remember making fun of a boy in my class. He and his friends followed me from school that day. I only made it half-way home before they grabbed me. The pack of three of them took turns pushing and spinning me between them. Dizzy, I stumbled. […]

How to Change Your Marriage…

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Disappointment threatened to crush my mother’s heart as I listened to the child’s tale of woe. Like shards of glass under bare feet, we pressed hard together into the painful event and shared tears. Helpless to reinvent history, I offered empathy and hugs and my own sorrow for this precious one’s heart ache. It seemed […]

Purpose in the Pain

A young boy wandered over to me today after I taught the lesson at Vacation Bible School. He said, “If my mommy and daddy would just obey God, then they wouldn’t fight any more and I wouldn’t be sad.” He looked about all of 9 years old. I said, “That might be true. But you […]

Ever Been Exhausted?

And sick? And have too much to do, with no one else to do it but you? All at the same time? Boy, do I know how you feel. So in the midst of my self-induced pity party this morning, while reading Proverbs 6, God taught me two things: 1) I needed to stop whining […]

But I Feel So Alone…

“Is this my lot in life? To forever have sorrow and pain as my companions? Will I never have the joy and peace promised me because of my husband’s sin?” My friend wept and I honestly didn’t know what to say to her. The man she trusted her heart to so many years prior seemed […]

Every Tear … and The Respect Dare

I listened through tear filled eyes as my friend confessed the feelings of longing and loneliness which filled her waking moments.  “He’s not a bad man, he just doesn’t want anything to do with me physically.”  I wish she were the only one of my girlfriends, who no matter how in shape, thin, beautiful or sultry […]

the respect dare – and a lack of respect

Picking up Christmas wrapping on my hands and knees, marveling at the lack of effort from anyone else in my family, I seethed with anger and resentment.  Masters degree, fabulous part-time career (that could have been full time if I had wanted it) three great kids, house in the suburbs,  and I felt like all my […]