How to Be a Good Girlfriend…

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Yesterday I apologized to my 17 year old for coming unhitched at him over his lack of finish on a project. I had tried very hard to get him to do something. Very. Hard. Then I got distracted and busy, and saw he hadn't finished it yet. Still. And then I realized it might not get done. Continue Reading

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband

Your husband says to you, "You never..." or "You always..." or whatever.  Your natural reaction is to be what?  How about ticked? Or hurt. Or worse yet, scared. But yes, probably angry.  Unless you are scared.  Or don't know what to do.  And that usually results in being a doormat.  Which doesn't Continue Reading

How To Get Your Husband to Hear You…

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On a radio show several months ago, a male interviewer and pastor took me to task for one of the dares in the book entitled, "Initiate." "Isn't that pretty forward?" he asked. "Aren't you suggesting women lead in their marriages?" he continued. I said something like, "I suppose you could look at it Continue Reading

Why Marriage is Hard…

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Over a decade ago, something happened in my own walk with God that I've found common to people who pursue His calling for their lives as though it is everything to them. Those of us in ministry (and whether you have a tax exempt organization or whether you view being a mom, wife, friend, or Continue Reading

Is Judgment Destroying Your Marriage?

"You have to speak his language, honey," I told my daughter. She perched tall, calm but confused, atop the gentle horse. A dear friend and riding partner of mine has horses. Unfortunately, she also suffers greatly from rheumatoid arthritis, and is recovering from a recent surgery. I am so blessed Continue Reading

Ever Been Exhausted?

And sick? And have too much to do, with no one else to do it but you? All at the same time? Boy, do I know how you feel. So in the midst of my self-induced pity party this morning, while reading Proverbs 6, God taught me two things: 1) I needed to stop whining and get to work; and 2) I needed a Continue Reading

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband

Your husband says to you, "You never..." or "You always..." or whatever.  Your natural reaction is to be what?  How about ticked? Or hurt. Or worse yet, scared. But yes, probably angry.  Unless you are scared.  Or don't know what to do.  And that usually results in being a doormat.  Which doesn't Continue Reading