“Giving” Him Sex…

I had a number of really interesting conversations with people online about the suggestions from yesterday for women who are having a hard time getting help around the house from the people they live with.  We talked specifically about kids and husbands. What was of particular interest to me was the topic of sex as […]

What Do I Do if He Wants to and I Don’t??

You know what I mean… he’s touching you…has that smile on his face…THE LOOK… 🙂  and you’re touched out from dealing with kids, or exhausted from a long week of work, or just need some sleep because your teens have been keeping you up late and you’ve still had to get up early, or you’ve […]

Tears, Family, Golden Retrievers, and God’s Character

Standing in the emergency vet lobby, nearly blinded by tears, I again dialed my husband’s cell phone and once more heard his voice mail. In my mind, I envisioned him sitting next to our middle son at the Red’s baseball game, his cell phone turned off in the pocket of his cargo shorts. For a […]

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband

Your husband says to you, “You never…” or “You always…” or whatever.  Your natural reaction is to be what?  How about ticked? Or hurt. Or worse yet, scared. But yes, probably angry.  Unless you are scared.  Or don’t know what to do.  And that usually results in being a doormat.  Which doesn’t work, either. So […]

The Core of Conflict and The Respect Dare

I’m working with a married couple in crisis right now. If I were to share with you the nitty gritty details of their issues, you’d think, “There’s no way this will get better.”  What’s so exciting to me is that the core of their problems isn’t any different than the core of Adam and Eve’s issues […]

Angry & Married & Doing Something About It – with the smaller things…

Last night, when my husband came upstairs to go to bed, he woke me.  He didn’t mean to do so, but it happened.  Not because he’s inconsiderate, thoughtless and rude, but because he was half-asleep when he came into the bedroom (he’d fallen asleep on the couch).  After lying awake for about half an hour, […]

the respect dare – and a lack of respect

Picking up Christmas wrapping on my hands and knees, marveling at the lack of effort from anyone else in my family, I seethed with anger and resentment.  Masters degree, fabulous part-time career (that could have been full time if I had wanted it) three great kids, house in the suburbs,  and I felt like all my […]

the respect dare … and little things

A young man with whom I am well acquainted and I had a rather disturbing discussion.  Without being too specific, let’s just say that an incident occured in which a lack of common sense resulted in a small catastrophe.  I realize that individuals under the age of 25 are lacking in the frontal lobe (common […]