“Giving” Him Sex…

I had a number of really interesting conversations with people online about the suggestions from yesterday for women who are having a hard time getting help around the house from the people they live with.  We talked specifically about kids and husbands. What was of particular interest to me was the topic of sex as […]

A Man’s Broken Heart…

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Last week, a guy who is “someone who is someone” in Christian ministry contacted me to encourage me to keep doing this blog thing. As it turns out, he read this post about pornography, where a man shares the raw truth of addiction. It deeply impacted him. You see, this man I met with encounters […]

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband

Your husband says to you, “You never…” or “You always…” or whatever.  Your natural reaction is to be what?  How about ticked? Or hurt. Or worse yet, scared. But yes, probably angry.  Unless you are scared.  Or don’t know what to do.  And that usually results in being a doormat.  Which doesn’t work, either. So […]

How Can I Fix My Marriage?

This afternoon, I asked my talented chef husband what he needed me to do for Easter dinner.  He told me to snap the asparagus and get it ready for cooking.  That was pretty much it, although I did help make the bread earlier in the day.  Knowing asparagus takes about 8 minutes,  I asked, “Do you […]

The Core of Conflict and The Respect Dare

I’m working with a married couple in crisis right now. If I were to share with you the nitty gritty details of their issues, you’d think, “There’s no way this will get better.”  What’s so exciting to me is that the core of their problems isn’t any different than the core of Adam and Eve’s issues […]

the respect dare – and a lack of respect

Picking up Christmas wrapping on my hands and knees, marveling at the lack of effort from anyone else in my family, I seethed with anger and resentment.  Masters degree, fabulous part-time career (that could have been full time if I had wanted it) three great kids, house in the suburbs,  and I felt like all my […]

the respect dare … and little things

A young man with whom I am well acquainted and I had a rather disturbing discussion.  Without being too specific, let’s just say that an incident occured in which a lack of common sense resulted in a small catastrophe.  I realize that individuals under the age of 25 are lacking in the frontal lobe (common […]