The FIVE States of Our Hearts… the one I forgot!

So yesterday I wrote this post about the Four States of Our Heart – and I realized that I forgot one. I put it in as #3 below, and included the rest of yesterday’s post to put it in context.  Sorry about that! 1. A Worried Heart We forget to take our troubles to God, […]

Dare 29… Abuse and Persecution…

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A few days ago, I received this in reference to my post on dealing with someone who verbally assaults you: My husband has in the past referred to me as ‘a piece of skin that he uses for sex’. I was so hurt about this but still chose to extend grace to him and continued […]

You may not know this, but…

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I have failed at being good at being married. Hundreds of times, failed. What does that look like? I think you might know. So because God wired me to not take “failure” as an end result of much of anything, I literally have a few hundred books on marriage. And I’ve read them all. Cover-to-cover […]

I Hurt A Sweet Woman…

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Tuesday, I blogged about Dare 26, a reader’s experience with her husband when he was acting angry, and the battle that rages in our hearts toward each other in marriage. The big “A-Ha!” findings from Shaunti Feldhahn’s new book, Highly Happy Marriages, is that couples that are actually happy are doing these things: Paying attention to the “little […]

Six Ways to Overcome Your Husband’s Anger in the Midst of Conflict

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Her husband is angry again. He paces back and forth in the bedroom, looking for his belt, his hand running through his hair. His face wears anxiety. Worry furrows his brow. “Can I help you with anything?” she asks. “I can’t tell you anything because you will think I’m telling you that you’re a bad […]

Who Should Leave in YOUR Marriage?

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This morning I had the privilege of participating in a conference call with a group of women learning to respect their husbands. The ministry that sponsored the call is the Annointed Wives Ministry and they hail from Chicago. They are awesome. You should totally check them out above. During the call, (and OH IT WAS EARLY… […]

7 Steps to Stop Being Defeated by Conflicts …

Interested in trying a social experiment with me in your home? This might get weird, but work with me here… A little background first… Fact: I have spent over 20 years teaching others to overcome the fear of public speaking, using a method that works literally 100% of the time in building confidence for literally anyone […]

We Need Prayer… for What Changes YOUR Marriage…

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What if there was a process to change your marriage – and what if it was not only biblical, but had been proven to work? What if there was even tons of research behind it? And the method had been around for literally decades? Here’s the thing – marriages ALL have conflict. Based on what […]

3 Quick Ways to Save Your Marriage Today…

Dr. John Gottman has spent his life studying what REALLY works in marriage. He’s made a number of astounding discoveries, not the least of which is the reason counseling only works in turning around a marriage about 25% of the time: much of what we have been taught was not designed for a marriage application, […]

Dare Six… and Why MANY Conflicts Occur…

I spent the weekend doing a leadership retreat an awesome group of FUN leaders – at one point we all burst into a kids’ song, “Encourage one another, and build each other up… build each other up… build each other UP!” ( 🙂 Sorry!) Somehow most of us were familiar with the song, and the […]