One man’s opinion about defensiveness…

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Ever ask a man about defensiveness? A little while back, a class member asked me a question about her husband. He had made fun of a disabled person and was angry about how long it took to get through the grocery line. She has been at a loss at how to deal with these things. […]

How defensiveness is destroying your marriage…

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In case you’re not, you should be aware of how defensiveness is destroying your marriage… I would like some input in dealing with family communication, or lack thereof. When someone does something insulting, deceptive, etc. to upset me and/ or make me angry, the defense mechanism is to get angry at me-first- so I’m on […]

God Can Change Your Marriage in 2016

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Do you believe God can change your marriage in 2016? That’s half the battle, right there. Because maybe, just maybe, you’ve given up hope. What if the mess your marriage is in exists because of a number of God-created and poorly humanly handled circumstances and responses? Here’s what we know to be true, things that […]

Quick TIP! For Handling An Angry Husband…

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Got an angry husband? You know that heart-pounding-freaking-out feeling that you hate? That moment where he’s suddenly upset and you are surprised and then your own flight or fight response kicks in? One thing that might help is simply this: create safety for him. Know why he looks angry? He’s DEFENSIVE. He’s wired to be […]

What Do You Do When Verbally Assaulted?

There are many things you can do when you are verbally assaulted, and if you have an angry man you are married to, or you have regular disagreements with people, you are probably wanting to know how to disagree with them without feeling like a doormat. Or maybe you are still wondering if you are […]

Six Ways to Overcome Your Husband’s Anger in the Midst of Conflict

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Her husband is angry again. He paces back and forth in the bedroom, looking for his belt, his hand running through his hair. His face wears anxiety. Worry furrows his brow. “Can I help you with anything?” she asks. “I can’t tell you anything because you will think I’m telling you that you’re a bad […]

101 Things A Husband Can DO to Show Love to His Wife

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“Hey, I just want to tell you something,” he said, motioning me to come closer. I noticed he had tears in his eyes. My heart started to pound. I barely knew this man. He was the wife of a friend. Not a good friend, mind you, but a friend. And I was a little nervous. […]

7 Steps to Stop Being Defeated by Conflicts …

Interested in trying a social experiment with me in your home? This might get weird, but work with me here… A little background first… Fact: I have spent over 20 years teaching others to overcome the fear of public speaking, using a method that works literally 100% of the time in building confidence for literally anyone […]