How defensiveness is destroying your marriage…


In case you’re not, you should be aware of how defensiveness is destroying your marriage… I would like some input in dealing with family communication, or lack thereof. When someone does something insulting, deceptive, etc. to upset me and/ or make me angry, the defense mechanism is to get angry at me-first- so I’m on […]

Dare #4 Are you sabotaging your marriage?


Dare #4 Are you sabotaging your marriage? You know you can set it up to succeed or fail, right? I know it takes two, yes, but when we’re thinking about our part, we need to pay attention to HOW we think about where our marriage is headed. Are we worrying about how it might fail? […]

Why navel gazing is important…

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Today’s dare is a continuation of #3 – where we continue to torture ourselves with dig into self-evaluation. If you have done The RESPECT DARE book, you know the self-assessment about being a Biblical wife. There’s a ton of opportunity to really think through what kind of wife we are – and in that look at […]

Respect for your husband + Self-Respect helps your marriage…

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Did you know that respect for your husband + self-respect actually helps your marriage? Here’s a brief glance at what that can look like: So don’t be “wrong at the top of your voice,” as Emerson Eggerich puts it. If your husband is interested in growing your marriage, know he’ll hear the truth better from […]

Feel like a doormat? Might need some boundaries…

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If you feel like a doormat in your marriage it might be due to a need for some boundaries. I remember the first time a boundary of mine was crossed by a friend. I didn’t recognize it for what it was at the time, but I see it clearly now. We were sitting in the […]

What does it mean to submit to your husband?

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Have you ever wondered, “What does it mean to submit to your husband?” Or do you just kind of skim over those verses in the Bible, like I used to do, back in the dark ages, when we were first married? I’ve written on this topic a number of times, and I know it often […]

If you are feeling worthless or alone in your marriage…

If you are feeling worthless and alone in your marriage, I want to give you HOPE today. Even if your marriage is “okay.” Especially if your marriage is “awful.” And really if your marriage is “full of conflict,” “mean-ness,” hurt, or even verbal/emotional abuse. And I hope that if you understand what I’m about to […]

Got Submission?

Got submission? In November, a woman emailed about our Daughters of Sarah course and essentially said, “In Daughters, you say there’s a difference between ‘obeying’ my husband and ‘submitting’ to him – that I don’t have to obey him. Doesn’t God tell us in 1 Peter 3:1-6 to obey our husbands like Sarah did?” I […]

Respect Your Husband 101

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Respect Your Husband 101* *oh, and can we add a bit of self-respect this year, also? It’s a new year, and we’re starting a new round of respect here on the blog. On Facebook, you may have seen the below: Expectations are important. The first dare deals with these because there are MANY things to […]

God Can Change Your Marriage in 2016

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Do you believe God can change your marriage in 2016? That’s half the battle, right there. Because maybe, just maybe, you’ve given up hope. What if the mess your marriage is in exists because of a number of God-created and poorly humanly handled circumstances and responses? Here’s what we know to be true, things that […]