For Wives

Having been around for hundreds of years, the Bible, in its current form, is full of information about marriage.  This has been interpreted into the culture we live in today.  I have blogged about the concepts of “submission,” “respect,” and following Christ as a mom, wife, friend, and teacher.  I hope some of the answers you seek on your journey are found in what God has revealed to me and others here.

Do The Respect Dare book for the full life and marriage-changing effect, but in the meantime, for quick help, check out this list of 101 Ways to Respect Your Husband.

Have you stopped loving him? Need to rekindle feelings? THIS IS THE WAY. Research supported. Biblical.

This post on dealing with a husband’s anger is one of the most important posts I’ve ever written.  It is simple, but it points to the heart of the reason we do not understand respect, submission, or marriage.

First, go check out Why Respect? and the pages associated with it.

Are you Feeling Like a Loser? Stop. Any feelings of shame and guilt are from the enemy.

Lead women? Or want to? You don’t have to be perfect. Grab a few girlfriends and do Daughters of Sarah with them.

You might also address those thoughts that we all have about what to do when He Doesn’t Deserve Respect, or He Hasn’t Earned It.

Want to learn how to handle conflict better? Be sure to sign up for RESPECT 101 (it’s free) and check out these posts on conflict.

At a complete loss? Does he seem angry all the time? Maybe even verbally abusive? Take our Strength & Dignity eCourse.

And be sure to sign up for the Marriage Tips!

Got time to read? Check out these posts on respecting our husband. 

We also some specific resources For Victims of Abuse.

For those of you wondering about the stories from The Respect Dare, you can see the back story of Dare 18 here.

And for those of you who might be wrapping up your identity in what other people think, we encourage you to read God’s opinion of you.

Want to encourage other wives? Feel free to share this page via the links below.

Love to you,

~Nina

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

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4 thoughts on “For Wives

  1. Several of the things on the list were common sense to treat each other with mutual respect and love. I am concerned for the women however, that are already being mistreated by their overbearing, destructive husbands. Where’s the real balance? In the Word of God, it says to love God, then love one another as you love yourself. A woman that understands mutual respect and love is Leslie Vernick. She helps women who have been in destructive marriages, where men are not given a pass while the women work harder to appease an already entitled and destructive husband. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kh448ed6vbU. Please Nina, help explain the risks for wives in poor marriages that do not MUTUALLY treat each other with respect and love. Those are basic for BOTH in the marriage. Otherwise, I notice this list is more like a Stepford Wives instruction manual and not the way our Lord and Savior Jesus, treats women.

    • Sheri –
      This is why we created the Strength & Dignity eCourse and it’s free. Unfortunately, the approach that is used with a number of Christian writers who utilize the methods similar to Leslie Vernick’s end in divorce. If there is physical abuse, then safety is first, and the involvement of a professional and even the police may be necessary. And we need to protect our children, too. That’s a given. The list isn’t about mutual respect – I write about how to deal with conflict quite a bit, which is a mutuality issue – the list is just about respectful options, and yes, it is one-sided. I do not deny the existence of what you are saying, and I don’t give men a pass, but I speak to women, and I help them deal with men who are controlling and abusive.

      We have seen marriages with abuse and control be saved. It is certainly difficult, maybe even the most difficult of situations, dealing with abuse. But I’ve seen change occur.

      Thank you so much for your comments – sometimes divorce is the only thing that can keep her and her kids safe.

      Love to you,
      Nina