Dare #8 of The Respect Dare – The Problem with Memories

I Remember the Time… The lunge line was in one hand, the end of the rope in the other. I quietly told my horse to lunge (walk a circle) around me to the left. She did this. Then she sprung into the air, and started to gallop. Mane tossed in the wind. Eyes wide. Both […]

Rules or Relationship?

How to step away from the "Christian Checklist"

I remember it as though it occurred yesterday. Having lain unsleeping for two hours, tossing and turning, 4am roused me out of bed completely. I descended the stairs to the cold family room, pulled a blanket around me and started reading. It was early spring, so the resurrection called. I knew the story – Crucified, […]

Unconditional Respect – Shouldn’t Husbands Have to Earn Respect??

Unconditional respect – Shouldn’t husbands have to earn respect? Late for an appointment, Jim and I sped down the freeway in the fast lane.  Seeing our exit coming, I wondered if I should say something. Normally I wouldn’t have hesitated, but I’d been reading a book that indicated correcting your husband’s driving was NOT respectful. I […]

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband Your husband says to you, “You never…” or “You always…” or whatever.  Your natural reaction is to be what?  How about ticked? Or hurt. Or worse yet, scared. But yes, probably angry.  Unless you are scared.  Or don’t know what to do.  And that usually results in being […]

How to Deal with Defensiveness

aka how to scare your husband...

If you are looking for how to deal with defensiveness, this may help. So a while back, we ran a survey and discovered a commonly used phrase that instills fear into the average husband. The creator of all this anxiety?  One of the most commonly used phrases by wives around the western world:  “We need to […]

Feeling Unappreciated?

aka "how not to get stuck in misery"

Feeling Unappreciated? I have a friend who is seeing a marriage counselor because her marriage is hard. She shared recently with me what she considered a “really small incident” that represents a ton of others. One morning she rose early, made her husband’s lunch for him (usually he made it himself because he leaves really […]

An Open Letter to Husbands…

An Open Letter to Husbands … You know the feeling, the heart-pounding, tight-chested, palm-sweating moment filled with dread. “OH NO. This can’t possibly end well,” you might think, as you watch her crying, listening to her complaining that she doesn’t feel loved. The adrenalin has kicked in and you feel close to panic. All you want to do is […]