When you are the only one trying in your marriage…

aka "How wise women handle unloving behavior"

I know it hurts when it seems you are the only one trying in your marriage. You might wonder if it is you, and struggle with why he won’t change. You don’t know what to do, and maybe you are crying yourself to sleep at night, lonely as all get-out. Last week, we talked through […]

3 ways to mess up your marriage…

and your other relationships at work, home, and play

There are certainly more than 3 ways to mess up your marriage… today, however, we’ll be looking just 3…and changing them will change ALL of your relationships – and make you happier. … Carla stared at Steve in disbelief. All she had wanted to do was have a simple conversation about where to go for […]

How to be calm during conflict…

and how you can help your kids, your spouse, and your team stop freaking out

Wish you knew how to be calm during conflict?  Dare 4: Whatever We Pay Attention to Grows (yes, I’m writing another book – this time one about respecting self & others, and it will deal with handling conflict, deflating defensiveness, and creating communities of mutual respect and accountability – you can sign up by subscribing […]

Lose weight and keep it off…

...how changing how you think & how you receive & give love can change your life...

If there were a way for you to lose weight and keep it off wouldn’t you want to know about it? What if the method didn’t involve copious amounts of exercise and calorie counting, discouragement, frustration, and disappointment… and landed you lighter – forever – wouldn’t that be something you’d want even more? I’m going […]

Marriage Myths that Might be Making a Mess of Your Marriage

Debunking the Marriage Myths Over the next few weeks, I’m going to have some posts up about what is and isn’t true about marriage – and it’s based on research. We’ll be unpacking a few simple ideas that may have skewed your thinking for years, help you understand why they’re damaging, give you some ways […]

Passive Aggressive Husband?

Is your husband passive aggressive? According to Google: pas·sive-ag·gres·sive adjective of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials. Men aren’t the only ones capable of being passive aggressive. Women can be […]

Why he disrespects you…

Wondering why he disrespects you? Let’s use an analogy to understand why husbands sometimes disrespect their wives… So let’s say you are an avid runner and want to significantly increase your distance and pace because you want to not only run a marathon, but you want to run it fast enough to qualify for the […]