A Small Change to STOP Making Others Defensive

Simple phrase that diffuses potential conflict

A turn from defensive I walked into the hallway and said to her, “Baby, you’ll need to do the stairs, there’s dog hair on them.” This was after she’d already put the vacuum away, thinking she was done with her daily chore. I might have heard, “I know!!” from her lips or spotted a complimentary eye-roll for no […]

Rules or Relationship?

How to step away from the "Christian Checklist"

I remember it as though it occurred yesterday. Having lain unsleeping for two hours, tossing and turning, 4am roused me out of bed completely. I descended the stairs to the cold family room, pulled a blanket around me and started reading. It was early spring, so the resurrection called. I knew the story – Crucified, […]

God Can Change Your Marriage in 2017

Do you believe God can change your marriage in 2017? That’s half the battle, right there. Because maybe, just maybe, you’ve given up hope. What if the mess your marriage is in exists because of a number of God-created and poorly humanly handled circumstances and responses? Here’s what we know to be true, things that […]

Are you a couple in conflict?

Whose fault is it?

I’m working with a married couple in crisis right now. If I were to share with you the nitty gritty details of their issues, you’d think, “There’s no way this will get better.”  What’s so exciting to me is that the core of their problems isn’t any different than the core of Adam and Eve’s issues […]

Self-Respect + Respect for your husband helps your marriage…

Did you know that self-respect + respect for your husband actually helps your marriage? Here’s a brief glance at what that can look like: So don’t be “wrong at the top of your voice,” as Emerson Eggerich puts it. If your husband is interested in growing your marriage, know he’ll hear the truth better from […]

Unconditional Respect – Shouldn’t Husbands Have to Earn Respect??

Unconditional respect – Shouldn’t husbands have to earn respect? Late for an appointment, Jim and I sped down the freeway in the fast lane.  Seeing our exit coming, I wondered if I should say something. Normally I wouldn’t have hesitated, but I’d been reading a book that indicated correcting your husband’s driving was NOT respectful. I […]

Heal & Grow Your Marriage Webinar – Thursday 2pm ET

...why a man's brain responds to respect...

  A SPECIAL WEBINAR – Heal & Grow Your Marriage through RESPECT   To help your marriage heal and grow, Life Model Works has invited me to be their guest on this Webinar: Thursday, March 9th, 2:00 PM ET. The Bible and brain science agree that a key to healing and growing your marriage is a wife’s […]