Dare #5 of The Respect Dare – Trust God or Idols?

When A Child is Hurt...

Of all the dares in the book, Dare 5 strikes the most nerves. A child is injured. Mom saw it coming. Choose to Trust God? She chose to stay out of His way, and God showed up to teach her husband something. But what if it had been worse? Could you have trusted God’s goodness […]

Dare #4 Journey – 5 Positives for Every Negative…

Negative or Positive? What do you actually DO? I mean, are we supposed to just run around giving compliments like crazy? In research done by Dr. John Gottman, we learn that marriages that are considered “happy” have a number of things in common.  Here’s just a few: A complete absence of contempt 5 “positive” interactions […]

Dare #3 Journey – Continued Self-Assessment

A.K.A. Navel Gazing

Today’s dare is a continuation of #3 – where we continue to torture ourselves with dig into self-evaluation. But before we get into that, I just want to say THANK YOU. Debbie, Dave, and her sons and her family are touched by the outpouring of love and support from you all. The irony of her daughter’s […]

These are difficult days – prayer appreciated

thankful to be able to ask you...

There aren’t words. All I can say is that prayer is appreciated. What are the odds of taping a Focus on the Family broadcast about your parenting book in March, and then having the segment that talks about raising a challenging child air on the day of that now 29 year-old child’s memorial?  As many […]

Dare 3 of The RESPECT DARE – Biblical Wife

I Flunked the Assessment

Friends, Please forgive me for hijacking our dare experience today. There’s been a tragedy in our ministry. For those of you who know my sweet friend, operations director, and co-author, Debbie Hitchcock, it didn’t seem right to me to just post today without letting you that something has happened. Her daughter passed suddenly last week. […]

Dare 1 of The RESPECT DARE…Expectations

Marriage Expectations My daughter and I attended a conference for young girls and their moms. Standing and worshiping together, we clapped hands, waved our arms, and sang our hearts out. We took notes and ate Chick-Fil-A sandwiches for lunch.  We talked and laughed a lot. The main message of the conference dealt with Jesus Christ as […]

The Respect Dare… for Non-Christians

Respect Research 101

Rationale for Respect Several years ago, I had a discussion with a woman who adamantly refused to demonstrate respect towards her husband. She felt he hadn’t done anything to deserve it. She’s not a Christian, and wouldn’t appreciate God’s point of view in the matter.  So, I took an academic approach. Research done at Washington State University […]

Ten Things That Could Destroy Your Marriage

You might be doing them!

Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage We’ve spent the last four weeks addressing the common things we can do to encourage our husband to open up. We’re going to close with some really important information… the top 10 things you might be doing that will destroy your marriage if they aren’t stopped. #10.  Be on the […]