WOMEN: Stop Wanting it ALL. Dare 39

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Have you felt the pressure of the lies about wanting it all? One of the few things that makes me about half crazy frustrated at the mere mention of the subject is GENDER EQUALITY. Now, bear in mind, I’m NOT talking about equal pay for equal work. I’m also not saying that there aren’t bad men out […]

101 Things A Husband Can DO to Show Love to His Wife

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“Hey, I just want to tell you something,” he said, motioning me to come closer. I noticed he had tears in his eyes. My heart started to pound. I barely knew this man. He was the wife of a friend. Not a good friend, mind you, but a friend. And I was a little nervous. […]

What are You Looking For?

I watched disagreements unfold online as an article I wrote for the Sexes column of The Atlantic was published. In an age where “Letters to the Editor” are a thing of times gone by for the most part, I stood back and marveled at the level of intensity and misunderstanding of my experience.  Perhaps most […]

Having it All…? or Had Enough?

My husband and son spent a few days recently visiting Christian colleges. After one tour, my husband called me and shared a rather odd experience. “We were standing in a group of 20-30 high school students with the college tour guide, who was also a student. She began her announcements, then launched into the demographics […]

Second Chances…

“Why didn’t you tell me?” I inquire. “You haven’t exactly been very approachable this week,” he says. “Oh,” I reply. “I’m really sorry, you deserve better than that.” “No, I don’t, but I forgive you,” he says. “I don’t deserve that, either,” I smile. “Nobody does, but that’s okay. Human condition.” he says. I missed […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

So today, when I read Proverbs 7, I identified with the woman who was “loud and defiant,” whose feet “never stay home.” And I recalled a recent conversation with our Operations Director about a church that wants us to come do leadership and relationship training. Stay with me, there’s a marriage point at the bottom… […]

Tired of “The Drama?”

Did you grow up in a home where you were encouraged to share your emotions, even if they were “negative?” Or were you told to “get over it,” or “grow up?” If you have kids, are you good at helping your own children work through issues when they are emotional, or does it completely stress […]

There’s No Title Today.

I’d really like to pretend I was perfect this morning. Truth is, I’m dealing with something that has crippled my ability to serve today, and maybe longer. It’s probably rooted in pride or some other selfish sin, but right now the most I can do to keep my commitment to travel through Proverbs with you […]

What Makes You Defensive is Often a Lie…

Sometimes the only exercise we get is jumping to conclusions. But when we land, we will frequently land on our spouse’s heart – because all too often, conclusions are wrong. And the Bible is pretty clear about how we are to engage in conflict. Matthew 7:15 tells us not to judge, yet we do anyway, […]