What are You Looking For?

Yesterday I watched disagreements unfold online as an article I wrote for the Sexes column of The Atlantic was published. In an age where “Letters to the Editor” are a thing of times gone by for the most part, I stood back and marveled at the level of intensity and misunderstanding of my experience.  Perhaps […]

Having it All…? or Had Enough?


My husband and son spent a few days recently visiting Christian colleges. After one tour, my husband called me and shared a rather odd experience. “We were standing in a group of 20-30 high school students with the college tour guide, who was also a student. She began her announcements, then launched into the demographics […]

Second Chances…

“Why didn’t you tell me?” I inquire. “You haven’t exactly been very approachable this week,” he says. “Oh,” I reply. “I’m really sorry, you deserve better than that.” “No, I don’t, but I forgive you,” he says. “I don’t deserve that, either,” I smile. “Nobody does, but that’s okay. Human condition.” he says. I missed […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

So today, when I read Proverbs 7, I identified with the woman who was “loud and defiant,” whose feet “never stay home.” And I recalled a recent conversation with our Operations Director about a church that wants us to come do leadership and relationship training. Stay with me, there’s a marriage point at the bottom… […]

Tired of “The Drama?”

Did you grow up in a home where you were encouraged to share your emotions, even if they were “negative?” Or were you told to “get over it,” or “grow up?” If you have kids, are you good at helping your own children work through issues when they are emotional, or does it completely stress […]

There’s No Title Today.

I’d really like to pretend I was perfect this morning. Truth is, I’m dealing with something that has crippled my ability to serve today, and maybe longer. It’s probably rooted in pride or some other selfish sin, but right now the most I can do to keep my commitment to travel through Proverbs with you […]

How Can I Fix My Marriage?

This afternoon, I asked my talented chef husband what he needed me to do for Easter dinner.  He told me to snap the asparagus and get it ready for cooking.  That was pretty much it, although I did help make the bread earlier in the day.  Knowing asparagus takes about 8 minutes,  I asked, “Do you […]

the respect dare … where are the men?

Being originally from Montana, the rugged camp environment spoke volumes to my soul and love of the outdoors.  I eagerly addressed a group of camp counselors at a well-known, highly rated Christian summer camp in “the lodge.”  As I watched the group trickle in from an activity where they had climbed to the top of […]