Dare #4 Journey – 5 Positives for Every Negative…

Negative or Positive? What do you actually DO? I mean, are we supposed to just run around giving compliments like crazy? In research done by Dr. John Gottman, we learn that marriages that are considered “happy” have a number of things in common.  Here’s just a few: A complete absence of contempt 5 “positive” interactions […]

Rules or Relationship?

How to step away from the "Christian Checklist"

I remember it as though it occurred yesterday. Having lain unsleeping for two hours, tossing and turning, 4am roused me out of bed completely. I descended the stairs to the cold family room, pulled a blanket around me and started reading. It was early spring, so the resurrection called. I knew the story – Crucified, […]

One man’s opinion about defensiveness…

Ever ask a man about defensiveness? A little while back, a class member asked me a question about her husband. He had made fun of a disabled person and was angry about how long it took to get through the grocery line. She has been at a loss at how to deal with these things. […]

Why your husband no longer respects YOU…

To think about why your husband no longer respects you is painful. I’m sorry. But you’ve noticed it, right? The disrespect shows up in small ways… and big ones. A look of disdain here… The curved lip of contempt there… Dishes left out for “someone else” to do… same with the dirty laundry… Opinions ignored, […]

What does it mean to submit to your husband?

Have you ever wondered, “What does it mean to submit to your husband?” Or do you just kind of skim over those verses in the Bible, like I used to do, back in the dark ages, when we were first married? I’ve written on this topic a number of times, and I know it often […]

It’s in The Hands of God…

In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation […]

Quick TIP! For Handling An Angry Husband…

Got an angry husband? You know that heart-pounding-freaking-out feeling that you hate? That moment where he’s suddenly upset and you are surprised and then your own flight or fight response kicks in? One thing that might help is simply this: create safety for him. Know why he looks angry? He’s DEFENSIVE. He’s wired to be […]

What Do You Do When Verbally Assaulted?

There are many things you can do when you are verbally assaulted, and if you have an angry man you are married to, or you have regular disagreements with people, you are probably wanting to know how to disagree with them without feeling like a doormat. Or maybe you are still wondering if you are […]